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Oct 15

Why I’m a Runner

Posted By iamincontrol | October 15, 2013

Running shoes
By Amanda

Running has been a part of my life for many years. It’s great because you don’t have to be an athlete, or even desire to be one to start running. In my case, I was on the cross country team in high school and enjoyed being outside running. It was a way for me to get exercise and be with my friends. I have continued to have a passion for running through my college years. College life can be very stressful. Trying to balance; family, friends, school, and work can be quite hard. Many students I know say they don’t have enough time to exercise. When I need a break from doing homework I enjoy going out for a run. Sometimes, I just need a break from my busy life, and running helps me and makes me feel so much better when I am done.

Running is just one way to get exercise, but I enjoy it because running is easy and very inexpensive. I don’t need costly equipment; all I need is running shoes. When I run I notice that I sleep better at night, which is important for anyone who is really busy.

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Sep 12

Suicide: It’s Not the Only Option

Posted By iamincontrol | September 12, 2013

By Kassandra

When I was in middle and high school, I was the person that the “popular” people in my school would pick on.  I was the kid that spent more time on their homework than out spending time with friends. I was in all the “nerdy” stuff like band, National Honor Society and quiz bowl, but I was also in sports such as cross country, track and dance team. Due to the extras that I was in I never really fit in anywhere but was an easy target to be picked on.  I was picked on so much that by the time I was a freshman in high school I felt like there was no way out and no hope for things to get better.

By the end of the summer before I was to start my sophomore year of high school, I had a plan to kill myself.  I had everything in place and even had the day that I was going to kill myself picked out. Why did I have this all planned?  I felt like I was alone in the world.  Everything seemed really dark and that there was no hope of people stopping their bullying.  Also I had years of bad self-image and feeling inadequate to prevent me from trying to get help.

Your next question may be why am I still here if I had everything planned? The answer to that is because my sister found and read my diary. At the time I was furious at my sister for betraying my privacy, but now I’m extremely grateful to her.  By reading my diary my sister found my plan and went to my mom. They both confronted me about what I was going through.  I never told them the extent of my problems, but by talking to them I realized that suicide wasn’t the best way out.

Why Not to Think about Suicide

I know that if you are at the point of considering suicide you feel like there is no way out. I beg you to stop and think about where you are in life.  When I was at that point I was in high school and couldn’t imagine making it through three more years, but the truth was that I could. In a way, if I killed myself I had let the bullies win. I had let them get inside my head and bring me to seeing myself the way they did – as a freak and not someone that would fit in. Please, if you are considering suicide, get help. Don’t let the bullies win and please don’t cut your life short. You will do amazing things with your life even if you can’t see that now.

If you considering suicide or are experiencing bullying, please call Your Life Iowa at 1-855-581-8111 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255).

There is help.

Sep 3

How to Handle the Stress

Posted By iamincontrol | September 3, 2013

Stressed teen
By Taylor

Last month’s poll was about STRESS.  The question was:  What stresses you out the most?

You guys said:

  • Grades (39%)
  • Job (17%)
  • Parents (4%)
  • Friends (4%)
  • Relationships (8%)
  • Not enough time to do everything (26%)

I’m sure most of you wanted to click more than one – not suprising!  Trying to balance so many things like school, activities, relationships and a job? Feel like pulling your hair out and just giving up sometimes? Well you are not alone! I think everybody goes through various stages in their lives where they feel like giving up because the stress seems unbearable.  We need to remember to keep pushing through it because the rewards will be worth it someday.  However, we also need to remember to not push ourselves to the point we break.  The solution to this is to find stress relievers.

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Aug 22

An Unexpected Loss

Posted By iamincontrol | August 22, 2013

By Emily

About a year and a half ago I had a friend and classmate commit suicide. His name was Calvin. He was only 19 years old and was attending college. He was such a talented young man. He was an amazing violin player and had a very strong passion for music. He was honestly the most kind/non-judgmental person that I’ve ever known. He was very unique and had so much going for him in life. He was voted most likely to change society during our senior year.

There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think about him. He was someone who I never expected would take his own life. I never saw him mad, sad or down a day in my life. He always was extremely positive and happy. This really has taught me that you never know what someone is going through. Anyone can put on a “mask” in front of other people. I always question what I could have done to help him. I know this isn’t something I can blame myself for because it wasn’t my fault, but what if I would’ve been a little kinder to him? What if I would’ve reached out to him and showed him I cared about him and what was going on in his life?

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Aug 20


Posted By iamincontrol | August 20, 2013

By Molly

Throughout high school, I was always active in sports and loved being involved and socializing with my friends during them. Little did I know that after coming to college, I would find a sport that I would love more than any other sport: rugby. Rugby is an intense game that requires a large amount of toughness as no pads are worn, as well as endurance because games last eighty minutes. Tackling is an essential part of rugby as well as rucking, which is fighting for possession. It is a game like no other, though people like to think of it as a combination of soccer and football.

The main idea of the game is to score the ball, which is called a try. There are eight forwards, which are generally the bigger and stronger individuals and seven backs which are the quicker individuals. In football the clock stops every down. In rugby there is no such thing as downs and the clock never stops except at half time. The goal is to run the ball up the field to get the ball into the try zone. When the ball is in the try zone, downward pressure needs to be applied to the ball for the try to count on the scoreboard. There are three main forms of rugby: sevens, tens and fifteens. The names of the game demonstrate how many players are on either side of the field. Sevens games last fifteen minutes total, tens games last twenty minutes total and fifteens games last eighty minutes total.

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Aug 15

Being Bullied

Posted By iamincontrol | August 15, 2013

Bullying phrases
By Brandon

Everyone I know has been bullied one way or another. Some kids have never been bullied in school, but outside of school is a different story. There can be neighborhood bullies, and in some cases, adults can seem like bullies too. Take me for instance. I have a tendency to take social interaction a bit too seriously. Therefore, as a kid, I never responded well to teasing by my peers whatsoever. I suffered through this as a child all the way through my sophomore year in high school.

One particular instance of being bullied that was the worst for me was when I used to get death threats in school. Freshman year, this one kid I’ll call Sam, used to harass me on a daily basis just in one class. I dreaded going to this class everyday just because I knew Sam would always try and mess with me.

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Aug 13

Overcoming an Eating Disorder

Posted By iamincontrol | August 13, 2013

Plate with measuring tape
By Nikki

Upon entering high school, I developed an eating disorder.  It didn’t happen the day I walked through the door… it happened gradually.  I was very involved in sports that year, and the first season was volleyball.  High school sports take a lot of practice that I wasn’t used to.  I was also involved in choir, swing choir, and pep band.  It seemed like I was constantly busy!  I lost a little weight just from the extra activity.

When I did lose weight, people noticed me.  My friends and even people I hardly knew complimented me.  I had never been noticed in that way before.  Soon after that is when I started to lose weight the unhealthy way.

Before I knew it, I was completely obsessed with how much I ate, how much I exercised, and how much I weighed.  I literally didn’t even notice I was doing it; I was just engrossed in my obsession.  Every day before lunch at school, I would get really nervous.  I didn’t ever eat and my friends would always ask me why.  I made up different excuses everyday (mostly that I didn’t like the cafeteria food).  After school was sports practice.  If there wasn’t practice, I would go to the gym.  I would cancel plans with friends to go work out.

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Jul 11

Cutting 101

Posted By iamincontrol | July 11, 2013

By MaryCutting

Meet Beth.  Beth is an achieving 15-year-old teen girl in her sophomore year of high school. She has a solid group of friends, studies hard in school and gets good grades. Beth is involved in many activities but she admits she doesn’t really enjoy them anymore, she feels burned out.

But what you don’t know about Beth is that she sometimes cuts herself, in the privacy of her bedroom or bathroom, “just to feel relief or sometimes, just to feel something.”

Yes, cutting.  It is becoming more known in society today and many people are asking what it is, why people choose to cut and what can be done to help.  Cutting is a serious form of self-injury that involves cutting oneself to the point of bleeding.

Why do people choose to cut?

Many youth today are struggling to cope with extreme levels of stress in school, in their families, and in their peer relationships. Some of these youth are overscheduled and being hurried through their adolescent years. Teens have become vulnerable to our toxic, media-driven world. Being in front of a computer or TV screen has become the “norm” and more important than spending time with family and friends. Adolescent girls are being bombarded by images in the media about how they should look and act. Especially for young women, failure to live up to these idealized images can lead to developing an eating disorder and/or engaging in self-harming behavior.

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Jun 25

Abusive Relationship

Posted By iamincontrol | June 25, 2013

Abusive Relationship
By Maggie

I was a junior in high school when I got into my first serious relationship.  He was my best friend, I spent day after day with him; as long as we were together, we were happy.  I had never felt so comfortable with someone in my entire life.  He knew everything about me, and I knew all about him.  At the time, I was young and naïve, I was head over heels in love with him and I thought that he was the man I would be with the rest of my life.

It was the summer going into our senior year: we had been together seven months and were crazy about each other.  Slowly, he started insulting me.  He told me many times that no one else would ever love me, that I was damaged and if it was not for him, I would be alone.  Not wanting to believe that he could be this mean, I convinced myself that he must had been going through a tough time with something.  Telling myself this made me feel better, and I let him get away with it, hoping he would soon stop.

A month later, the insults became more common, and much worse.  Not being able to take it anymore, I told him that he was hurting my feelings, and that I really wanted him to stop.  This only made him angrier.  We were at the town festival when his anger took on a new level.

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Jun 20

No Shame

Posted By iamincontrol | June 20, 2013

Teenage boy needing help
By Anonymous

My Teenage Ignorance

As a teenager, I thought I was pretty clever; a “sarcasm queen.”  Unfortunately, my sarcasm was only funny at the expense of others, especially those who needed “help.”  I thought counselors were pointless and anyone could do it. I mean, all they do is have their clients lie on couches and just repeatedly ask “And how does that make you feel?” right?  Wrong.  First, sadly they don’t let you lay on a couch and second, the work they do is irreplaceable in terms of helping those with mental illness.  In my ignorance, I blinded myself from seeing that I was in need of help.  I thought I was too strong to need a counselor.

Search for Happiness

My harsh sarcastic jokes stemmed from my own insecurity.  I strived to “fit in” with friends and boyfriends while abandoning my true self.  I abandoned my morals and values thinking I’d be happier if I just gave in to peer pressure.  It turns out a life full of partying and sexual activity is completely empty.  I didn’t find true happiness at all; I found myself feeling as if there was nowhere else to turn.  There wasn’t true happiness at home either…

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