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I AM in Iowa Adolescents Making Choices to Control Their Future Teen:Health, Relationship, Body and Sexuality

Tag: stress

Jul 4

How to Stay Healthy when Life is Tough

Posted By iamincontrol | July 4, 2017

The results are in and it shows that Iowa teens believe they know what to do to take care of themselves in stressful situations and in life in general!

When life gets tough with school, work, family, friends or just everyday issues you need to take care of yourself first. I know it is hard to imagine a day when everything is better but trust me its out there. You are NOT alone. A few things you can do to help your body distress and lower your stress includes:

  • Exercise. Just as Legally Blonde talks about “exercise creates endorphins. Endorphins makes people happy.” Exercising even once every few days will help reduce your stress! It will also allow you to feel better about your body.
  • Take a hot shower. Hot water will relax your muscles as well as allow you to have time to think to yourself. Things I enjoy are getting in the shower and standing there just breathing. You can even play some soft music and create an in-house spa night.
  • Write in a journal. Writing your feelings out knowing you won’t hurt anyone’s feelings is something I love to do. You can rant all you want but then leave all the issues in that book.
  • Spend time with an animal. Animals such as dog and cats can help with relieving stress. Just playing around with them and petting them will allow you to keep your mind off other things.

I know things will get better for you even when you can’t see the bright days ahead. Stay positive.

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Oct 16

Dealing with Depression and Anxiety

Posted By iamincontrol | October 16, 2014

sad teenage girl
By Emily

Dealing with depression and anxiety can be a daunting task, especially as a teenager.  You already have so much going on with school, work, extra-curriculars and anything else you might be involved in.  And then you have this nagging feeling.  It could be sadness, anger, fear, tiredness or any other combination of feelings.  Mine started slowly. It just seemed like I was having an off day, which turned into an off week, then an off month until finally I realized something was wrong.  I didn’t want to say anything about it because it’s not like I was sick. I didn’t need to go to the doctor.  I just needed to get out of my funk.  Things I used to enjoy doing were now things I shied away from.  Hanging out with my friends now became a chore.  I wanted to stay home and not do anything.  I couldn’t figure out exactly what was bothering me or why I had started to feel this way, but it was affecting my entire life.

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Sep 16

The Scoop on Sweat

Posted By iamincontrol | September 16, 2014

By Alyssa

As you go through puberty and your teenage years, you may notice that you sweat more than you did as a kid.  Sometimes this is a good thing – your body sweats when it gets hot and needs to cool down.  But sweating can be embarrassing, and you may want to know what else causes sweating and what you can do to combat it.

Possible Reasons for Sweating:Teen girl applying deodorant

  • Heat and humidity
  • Emotions such as stress, anger, or being nervous
  • Exercise
  • A fever
  • Caffeine (the more caffeine you have, the more you sweat)
  • Spicy foods
  • Some medicines
  • Alcohol or smoking

How to Combat Sweating & Odor:

  • Shower or take a bath every day.  Wash off the odors from a full day of sweating so you stay fresh and clean.
  • Calm down.  Easier said than done, but if you can learn to combat your stress, you may be able to decrease the amount of sweating that occurs from being stressed or nervous.
  • Use a deodorant or an antiperspirant, or both.  A deodorant just masks the smell of sweat, while an antiperspirant can decrease how much you sweat.
  • Wear cotton clothing, especially socks.  Cotton absorbs the moisture from sweat instead of trapping it.
  • Don’t wear the same shoes every day.  Try to at least switch between two pairs of shoes so that each pair has one day to dry out before you wear them again.

See your doctor if you have tried all these options and nothing has helped.  Sweating is normal for most teens, but it may be more serious for some and require medical attention.  Some teens may have a medical condition called Hyperhidrosis, which leads to excessive sweating.  To learn more about Hyperhidrosis and how to control excessive sweating, go here.

Don’t sweat it, you are in control!

Jul 29

Overcoming Anxiety

Posted By iamincontrol | July 29, 2014

By Rachel

I have had severe anxiety since I started junior high school. Stomach aches and panic attacks were issues that I had to face daily. Even going to school or the store caused me extreme anxiety. I understand how it feels to be scared of daily events, and I never want anyone to have to feel the way I did. That’s why I want to write this blog and help anyone who has feelings like these. You are never alone, even though it may feel like it.

I remember my anxiety started to show the day my mother left to go on a trip without me. My mom dropped me off for school like normal, and after school I was to stay with my sister for a week. I had never spent that much time away from my mom, and I was terrified that something was going to happen to her. Right after I got to school, I felt extremely sick and I asked my mom to stay home with me. She of course couldn’t, and I was distraught. I went and stayed with the counselor for the rest of the day because I couldn’t get my anxiety under control.

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Jun 17

Stress Relief through Exercise

Posted By iamincontrol | June 17, 2014

Teen girl running
By Alison

Lack of activity destroys the good condition of every human being, while movement and methodical physical exercise save it and preserve it.


Stress is commonly present amongst students. Throughout my years I have definitely been stressed to the max sometimes. Exercise is a great stress reliever for me. Growing up, I was always active in sports. Each season it was a new sport; it was go, go, go. Once I graduated high school, I was no longer on a team, but I knew that I wanted to continue being active.

In college I decided to sign up for a spinning class so I would remember to go. Eventually, I got a routine down, and exercise became a part of my daily life. In fact, on days when I did not do some sort of physical activity, I felt sort of grumpy. Later that spring, I began training for a half marathon. I have always been a runner, but I had never run 13.1 miles. After a couple months of training, I completed my first half marathon. It was a great accomplishment.

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May 20

Conquering Over Exercising

Posted By iamincontrol | May 20, 2014

Girl on treadmill
By Savanna

At the end of my senior year, I was off to college. I was starting to feel overwhelmed and anxious.  Not only was I done with competitive sports, but I would be soon leaving all of my friends and family.  With all these new changes occurring in my life, I started to turn to the only things I felt I could control: my diet and exercise.

I started exercising two to three times a day for hours at a time while only consuming around 1,000 calories or less a day.  I soon became obsessed with my body image and couldn’t bear missing a day of working out. I limited my diet to only a few food groups.  With my obsession of exercising and my diet, I started to lose relationships with my sister and friends.  I had no energy to ever do anything and ended up becoming a very negative person.

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Mar 18

Sports Anxiety

Posted By iamincontrol | March 18, 2014

Sports anxiety
By Anonymous

There are plenty of people willing to speak up in favor of the value of participating in high school sports. We’ve all heard about how fun sports are and how they teach valuable skills like teamwork, hard work, and commitment. But for some people, sports can be a source of extreme anxiety and stress. That was the case for me.

As a freshman in high school, I made the varsity softball team. After the announcement was made, I was thrilled and couldn’t wait to get home and try my uniform on. I set the goal to be a four year starter and promised myself I would practice harder and longer than everyone else. My hard work paid off, and I became the starting third baseman. I was on my way to achieving my goal.

Then, during my junior year, everything changed. A new freshman made varsity and she also desired the third base position. I pledged to work even harder and practiced every moment I possibly could. Despite my hard work, I arrived one game to find a Junior Varsity jersey on my seat. I had lost my starting position.

This was one of the most devastating experiences during my time in high school. I cried for days and blamed myself for not working even harder. I became incredibly anxious for every practice and game, afraid that I would make mistakes and never get my position back. So much of my self-esteem and self-worth had come from my softball success, and I began to feel like I had less value as a person. I constantly worried about my softball performance and found it hard to have fun with my friends or concentrate on other activities. I eventually earned a starting spot again the next season, after spending an entire year obsessing over this sport and my worth on the team.

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Jan 14

Mean Girls: My Anorexia Story

Posted By iamincontrol | January 14, 2014

Bullied teenage girl
By Samantha

During my teenage years I suffered from self-esteem issues and anorexia. The girls on my volleyball team were extremely mean to me. Growing up I was really athletic and always had more muscle than other girls, so they called me fat. When I was 14, I convinced myself that I looked disgusting and needed to lose a lot of weight. Every time I looked in the mirror I picked out my flaws and thought about how much weight I needed to lose. Eventually the pounds started coming off and I was starting to get skinnier.

However, my self-esteem did not go up. It actually sky rocketed down. I started to get extremely sick and passed out often. I couldn’t participate in the sports I loved because I was so unhealthy. Eventually the school contacted my parents about the passing out episodes, and I had to confront them about my issues. The talk with my parents was very difficult, but I’m glad it happened. I needed a wake up call.

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Jan 2

Hotline Round Up

Posted By iamincontrol | January 2, 2014

You never know when you’re going to need to talk to someone.  Today we’ve put together a list of some numbers you might find helpful when you’re going through something.

Teen Line 1-800-443-8336
You can call the Teen Line 24/7 to ask any questions you have about your health or a problem in your life.  They will answer your questions or connect you with someone who can.  You can also chat online with a counselor 8AM-8PM Monday through Friday.

Your Life Iowa1-855-581-8111
This 24-hour, confidential hotline is available to anyone who wants to find information about how to identify and deal with bullying or the topic of suicide. You can also text 85511 3-11PM everyday or chat online.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
This 24-hour, toll-free, confidential suicide prevention hotline is available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Calls are routed to the nearest crisis center in a national network of more than 150 crisis centers.*

The Trevor Lifeline (for GBLTQ Youth)1-866-488-7386 (1-866-4-U-TREVOR)
Providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth.*

National Sexual Assault Hotline1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673)
Sponsored by the Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN). Online Hotline is also available (click the link).*

National Runaway Hotline1-800-786-2929 (RUNAWAY)
24-hour crisis line. It’s anonymous, confidential and free.*

Love is Respect: National Dating Abuse Helpline1-866-331-9474 (TTY 1-866-331-8453)
24-hour help for teens and young adults. Peer advocates are trained to offer support, information and advocacy to those involved in dating abuse relationships as well as concerned parents, teachers, clergy, and others.*

CDC-INFO 1-800-CDC-INFO (1-800-232-4636) or TTY 1-888-232-6348
Formerly known as the CDC National STD and AIDS Hotline, counselors at this hotline sponsored by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) now respond to questions about personal health issues, not just HIV and sexually transmitted infections. Available 24 hours a day, in English and Spanish.*

National STD (STI) Hotline1-800-227-8922
The hotline is available Monday through Friday, 9 am to 6 pm EST. The American Social Health Association website offers information about sexual health, healthy relationships, STIs, and more. Check out – a site developed for teens and their parents.*

Always reach out to someone when you have a problem or just feel like you need to talk.  You are in control of your life.

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Nov 19

The Perfect Stress Reliever

Posted By iamincontrol | November 19, 2013

By Bryce

Going through high school can be stressful for any kid, and everybody has their different ways to cope with stress.  In my experience I was constantly stressed out with grades and also with the high school sports that I participated in. I tried many remedies to cope with this stress, but the one that really put an end to my stress was through exercise.

I found that if I was stressed in a situation at home, the best way to cope was for me to go outside and shoot hoops.  Shooting hoops, for me, allowed me to get away from everyone and not think about what was stressing me out.  Instead, I would focus on a skill that involved exercise and try to perfect it.  The exercise calmed me down, and focusing on perfecting my skill allowed me to reduce stress in other areas in my life.  Playing basketball because I was stressed let me be confident in my ability on the court.  After all, the shooting and trying to get better made it more fun to compete.

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