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Dec 23

The Real Hunger Games: Finding Peace in the Day to Day

Posted By iamincontrol | December 23, 2014

The Hunger Games came out last week and like most of you, I had to get my eyes on that silver screen for the midnight premiere. I had to see part one of the ending of the saga of the Mockingjay. The movie, of course, did not disappoint. Full of action, love, and twists the movie is a must see during this holiday season.

There were parts in the movie that made me think. I know there have been certain times in my life, when friendships and relationships shift and change. Sometimes, a friendship, that you thought you couldn’t live without, takes a nosedive and blows up right in your face.  It’s a fact of life that things will change and we have a choice to fight that change or let it naturally ride its course.

Within the Mockingjay Part 1, we hear Katniss say “I never wanted any of this. I just wanted to protect my sister and keep Peeta alive.” I know I have said that same thing about a friendship or relationship that has been in shambles.  President Snow says “The things we love the most, they destroy us” I know when I love someone so much and our relationship is on the rocks; it’s like I rent free space in my mind to this hostel tenant. It’s like overthinking will help restore that friendship. And one of the worst feelings is when you love someone more than they love you. In the case of Katniss, on the nights before the Hunger Games, she let her sister, Petta’s love, and Gale’s love consume her to a point where she was willing to stand up to the capital or eat poisonous berries to save those relationships.  

Much like Katniss, she allowed for others to be the source of her peace. And in return, the people found Katniss to be the source of their peace. Their Mockingjay. And while this allowed for the revolution to occur, it made Katniss lose everything. Getting thrown into the hunger games twice, love struggles with Gale, etc. You should NEVER allow someone else be the source of your peace. You are in peace when you think your friends are not mad at you. You are in peace when you get ten likes on your Instagram photo.  You are at peace when that special someone Kiks you back. That form of peace is worthless and will always disappoint. So shake off that type of peace and learn to find peace in other things. I know I find peace when I connect to my family, multiple different friends, go to the gym on a daily basis, and spend time doing “me” tasks (cooking, reading, watching my favorite TV show). So find your peace methods, because it’s a lasting peace.


 

Dec 18

Emojis: Working Through the Crap in Your Life

Posted By iamincontrol | December 18, 2014

HAND UP IF YOU LOVE EMOJIS!! No one loves emojis more than this guy. I use them to communicate in my texts more than I use words sometimes. The emoji is that added flare to my texts that portrays my emotions to a tee. Who knew that such a small picture could do that? I guess the age old saying, “a picture says a thousand words,” has never been truer than for the emojis.

 

When you look at the large array of emojis found in the keyboard. One may start to appreciate the large amount of feelings humans feel. This may overwhelm someone, cause someone to become devastated by the amount of sad feelings one can feel. And to be honest, it is overwhelming. As humans, we cry, laugh, smile, frown, feel, hurt, and become angered, feared, or excited. All these emotions seem to be working together for or against our daily lives.

 

But, one emotion that the emoji fails to encompass is hope. For instance, maybe you had hoped: Hoped that you would get that role in the play, hoped that you would start on the basketball team, or hoped that you would have had a boyfriend/girlfriend by your senior year of high school. And I know that when I am in a mess of emotions and disappointments and someone says “If one door closes, there’s always a window.” I want to find that window and push that person out of it. I don’t think it’s a good idea to blindly walk around with a smile thinking everything will go our way and not recognize our emotions.

 

But one thing that every person wants is hope. Hope that comes from betrayal, denial, and suckiness, now, that’s a hope that will last. A hope that recognizes that being human is feeling all the types of emojis and more, but still knowing that things will get better. So be hopeful, because hope is taking that emoji and shoving it into a situation until it shows beauty and goodness, until it gets better, and it will.


 

Oct 23

Money Matters

Posted By iamincontrol | October 23, 2014

piggy bank
By Jacalyn          

When I was in high school I had two jobs, and to be honest I made quite a bit of money. However, while still in high school, I was very privileged by my parents bill-wise. I did not pay anything. So I mostly spent my money on stupid things like getting my nails done, tanning, getting my hair done, eating fast food, going to expensive places with my friends and buying expensive purses or electronics that I did not need. I was also very privileged in the sense that my grandparents and parents bought my car as well as put money in a savings account for me for college. When I left to start college, all my incoming money came to a halt.

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Oct 7

Credit Card Debt

Posted By iamincontrol | October 7, 2014

credit card
The results are in! 

Last month we asked you guys:

Do you have a credit card?

You guys strongly related to “I don’t have one yet, but I’m going to get one as soon as I can.

Credit cards can have benefits if you understand and are experienced with them, but they can be dangerous too.  It’s easy to overspend, and Rachael’s story below perfectly illustrates that.  Read on to learn how she got into (and then out of) credit card debt.

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Sep 18

How Working through High School Shaped Me

Posted By iamincontrol | September 18, 2014

smiling teenage girl
By Annie

While the thought of a lazy summer sounds wonderful to some, it didn’t to me. I dreaded not having something to do every day. Rather than sit at home, I wanted to be able to do something every day and enjoy doing it. Once I was able to drive, I picked up a job during the school year working on the weekends. I loved the idea of being able to find a job that I liked, where I could make friends, and earn money. Working through high school gave me something to look forward to and gave me a sense of accomplishment.

Although my parents never forced me to have a job through high school, I felt like it was a good time to start working. It helped me create a balance in my life between school, friends, sports, and work. I wanted to be able to have a little extra spending money to go to a movie with friends or buy a new pair of jeans.

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May 22

Getting My First Job

Posted By iamincontrol | May 22, 2014

Teen working at job
By Brooke

When I turned sixteen, I decided that I would like to get a part-time job. I had been babysitting off and on before that, but I wanted to get a consistent paycheck. I wanted my own money to spend any way I wanted. The problem was I really did not know where to start applying in my hometown. A family friend suggested I apply at one of the local gas stations where she worked since they were hiring. I got an application, filled it out, and waited (not so patiently) for them to call about an interview. A few days later they did call, but now the scary part was the interview itself.

I remember being so nervous I was shaking when I walked in for the interview. I had to remind myself to take some very deep breaths to calm down. I also had to remind myself to keep a smile on my face and a positive attitude. They didn’t ask very serious questions since they knew I was still in high school, and this would be my first job. Soon enough they were asking me when I would be available to come in and start training. I was elated!

I was lucky enough to get the first job I applied for, but this is not the case for everyone. I would suggest finding a job that you will enjoy, and don’t give up if it doesn’t work out the first time. Be sure to dress appropriately for the interview and to have a positive attitude. Read some more tips for acing a job interview as a teen here.

Getting my part-time job made me feel a lot more independent and proved to be one of the best decisions I made for myself in high school.

Still not sure a job is for you?  Read this IAMincontrol post for more reasons to get a part-time job.

Apr 17

Money Matters

Posted By iamincontrol | April 17, 2014


By Jacalyn

When I was in high school I had two jobs, and to be honest I made quite a bit of money. However, while still in high school, I was very privileged by my parents bill-wise. I did not pay anything. So I mostly spent my money on stupid things like getting my nails done, tanning, getting my hair done, eating fast food, going to expensive places with my friends and buying expensive purses or electronics that I did not need. I was also very privileged in the sense that my grandparents and parents bought my car as well as put money in a savings account for me for college. When I left to start college, all my incoming money came to a halt.

At first I was like, whatever, I’ll just take out the maximum amount of loans I am given, but I soon realized that wasn’t the smartest. I pay out-of-state tuition (which is expensive), and I realized I was just wasting the rest of my loan money. But, I am now a junior in college, and I try to take out the minimum amount of loans I need for school-related things like tuition and books because I do not want to be paying back my loans until I’m 90.   Read More

Feb 20

Getting a Job in High School

Posted By iamincontrol | February 20, 2014

Need some cash?
By Shannon

Getting a job in high school helped me grow into adulthood. My parents always made it clear that I would be provided everything I needed, but if I wanted anything extra I would have to get it myself. This included things like going out to eat with friends, paying for movies, or buying extra clothes that I wanted but didn’t need.

The first job I had while in high school was as a life guard. I first worked at our local outdoor pool over the summer. Then I got a job in a nearby town at a year-round indoor pool. I worked around 10 hours a week during the school year and around 30 hours a week during the summer.

Being able to work during high school and create my own income was a great experience that helped me to learn a lot of lessons about responsibility. I was able to have more freedom with what I spent my money on, and I was also given the opportunity to start saving money to make bigger purchases in the future, such as when I bought a car or needed money to go to college.

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Jan 23

Get Inspired

Posted By iamincontrol | January 23, 2014

 

Everyone pulls inspiration from different parts of life. Maybe you’re inspired by an idol of yours, like a great basketball player, a beautiful work of art, or a quote that gets you through the day.

One place we can’t forget to look for inspiration is in our peers. Seeing others just like us doing great things can inspire us to do great things as well.  Today we’re sharing a page from the Huffington Post that shares stories from inspirational teens, like the ones below.

Kevin Breel, 19-Year-Old, Explains What It Feels Like To Be Depressed In Beautiful TEDxYouth Speech

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Nov 7

Above the Influence

Posted By iamincontrol | November 7, 2013

So you may have heard of this site, www.abovetheinfluence.com, but have you actually used it?

Here’s a preview of why we love it…

It’s not just about an adult telling you what to do (or not do).  Above the Influence is about other teens sharing their experiences with you and sharing why they choose to remain substance free.  Check out their YouTube channel to watch stories from other teens, like this one:

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