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Apr 11

Drinking & Driving Charges

Posted By iamincontrol | April 11, 2017

There are a lot of pressures to drink while underage, but one thing that teens don’t often consider are the results of driving while under the influence. Even one drink can cause cognitive and physical impairments, meaning that you are not safe to be behind the wheel of a vehicle even if you don’t feel affected. There are different state and local laws depending on where you live, but if you are under 21 years of age and your blood alcohol content (BAC) is .02% or above while driving you, can be charged with an OWI in the state of Iowa. An OWI stands for “Operating While Intoxicated”. Here is a chart to show the penalties of an OWI:

Aside from these repercussions the judge could assign community service, require a drinking drivers course, or substance abuse treatment. These repercussions do not include the possibility of having a car accident and harming yourself or others. The best way to avoid receiving these charges or worse is to not drink and drive. Although peer pressure can be difficult, saying “no” can make the difference between making it home safely or not.

To learn more about the consequences of drinking or driving visit: http://dui.drivinglaws.org/iowa.php.

Dec 4

A New Allergy

Posted By iamincontrol | December 4, 2014

What’s up with all these allergies? Gluten-free stuff? I mean they just seem to be popping up everywhere. I understand people have allergies and we don’t want people falling over, because they got some their allergen on them. But what about those of us who have a religious relationship with that allergen. What are we suppose to do? So because of that, I am starting a new allergy. I am officially allergic to bad decisions. One of the bad decisions that exist is consuming alcohol or over consuming alcohol. Alcohol consumption can lead to a lot of different bad decisions that I am allergic to, drunk driving, non-consensual sex,  suspension from school activities, etc.

 

And when I was in high school and college, alcohol consumption sometimes seemed like the norm. Some students feel they need to keep up just to fit in. I don’t want to stand out; I want to blend in with everyone else. That’s how I felt until I realized that there were other things to do besides drinking, that drinking is not the norm. According to a recent study at the University of Iowa, the drinking rate has fallen by nearly twenty percent in the last five years. So, I was being pressured to think drinking was the norm, and being pressured to think that my alcohol consumption quantified my coolness. So I am starting this new allergy.

 

Soon some of you will be heading off to college and be faced with even more temptations of alcohol, listen to what one college student has to say:

 

“After a night of drinking, something needed to be done. It took me getting so far off track to realize that it is not who I am. I may live in a college town, but it’s actually not the norm at a college town. I am here for school and I need to be comfortable with myself. I am my own person and alcohol should never be the thing that defines me. For my success is not found on the fake norm of drinking, but rather the time I spend doing other things. Like, when I spend time with friends, find a new connection in a classroom, the feeling of working hard for an exam grade that comes back positive, or taking a leadership role in a school organization. Those are the moments you go to college for. “ –Jake

 

So if you could not offend my new allergy, that’d be great.

 

 

Oct 9

Changing Friend Groups

Posted By iamincontrol | October 9, 2014

teenage friends
By Anonymous

When I was in high school, I had a good group of friends my freshman and sophomore year. We would do everything together and would always hang out on the weekends. However, once we hit junior year, some of my friends started drinking, experimenting with drugs, and hanging around older guys. I did not want to do this because it wasn’t an interest for me, and it went against my morals. When my friends started doing these things, they would encourage me to do the activities as well. At first I would just go along with them to the parties and kind of be the person who would look after them and be a sober driver. After a while though, I got so tired of doing this and was not having any fun going out. I felt like my friends had changed. They slowly stopped calling me because I did not want to engage in drinking alcohol and doing drugs. I felt very hurt, lonely, and just lost. I felt like I had lost all of my good friends.

My mom noticed that I wasn’t hanging out with the same girls anymore and encouraged me to meet other girls by getting more involved in clubs at school. I took her advice and joined the choir at school. I met many great people through the choir, and I ended up being best friends with some of the girls I met. I also reached out to other people at my school who I had never talked to. I had more friends than I had before, and I was a lot happier. I felt renewed and felt like a better person overall. Even though losing some of my good friends from earlier in high school was hard, it made me a lot stronger. I realized that they were not the right friends for me. The friends I made in my junior and senior year are still some of my best friends to this day, and I am very glad that I met all of them! They made my life so much better.

Sep 4

Just Think Twice

Posted By iamincontrol | September 4, 2014

just think twice

Today we’re sharing a great resource called Just Think Twice.  This site is dedicated to giving you the facts on drugs and what their consequences could be.

Some of the cool features of the site include:

  • Facts & Fiction – Some of the things you may think are “facts” about drugs are actually myths, and they get busted here.
  • Consequences – Learn about what some of the consequences of using drugs could be, and read some true, tragic stories about their effects.
  • Teens to Teens – Members of the Drug Abuse Resistance Education’s (D.A.R.E.’s) Youth Advisory Board blog each month about a new topic.

Visit the site to find more resources and features.  Also, check out the IAMincontrol blog posts below to read about more real-life experiences with drugs and alcohol.

Alcohol: Not a Game
How Marijuana Affected My Relationship
Out of Control
DRUGS! They Determined My Life

Aug 7

Avoiding Alcohol

Posted By iamincontrol | August 7, 2014

avoiding alcohol
By Anonymous

I don’t remember exactly when it started, but I think it was in 8th grade – the day that alcohol joined my friend group. I remember feeling shocked when I first found out that some of my friends had started to drink. At first it wasn’t very many of them, and we were able to maintain our friendships despite our differences. Then we got to high school, and everything went downhill quickly.

My friends started slipping under the control of alcohol. By the time we were sophomores, the majority of my friends, both guys and girls, were drinking almost every weekend. I didn’t approve of their choices, but I tried to maintain the friendships. However, it was really difficult to do that when I couldn’t hang out with them on the weekends, unless I wanted to drink. Slowly, they began to dislike me because I wouldn’t succumb to their peer pressure. I was different, and we all knew it.

By the end of my sophomore year, I was isolated from the group. I spent the remainder of my high school weekends with a much smaller group of friends going to dinner, movies, shopping, or having bonfires or sleepovers. They were all activities that were free from drinking, and we still had tons of fun!

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Jun 5

Alcohol Free in High School

Posted By iamincontrol | June 5, 2014

Teenage friends
By Katie

Hi! My name is Katie, and I am going to talk about the pressure to drink alcohol as a teen. When I was in high school, the cool thing to do seemed to be drinking. All the older kids were doing it, and if you wanted to be cool, that’s what you were supposed to do. I’m here to tell you differently.

I never drank as a teen, and neither did any of my friends. I went to a small school, so I had a lot of friends, both boys and girls. We were all very close throughout high school, and I think that really helped us hold each other accountable. We always found things to do other than drinking on the weekends. We would go mini golfing, to the drive-in movie theater, down to the river to have a fire and hang out, giant games of hide and go seek around town or one of the parks in town, or even just a giant movie night at someone’s house.

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May 29

Surviving Sexual Assault

Posted By iamincontrol | May 29, 2014

serious teen girl
By Jessica

The summer before my junior year was when my life changed forever. I was raped by someone that I had trusted with my most precious memories. My two-year relationship ended because my boyfriend couldn’t look at me the same. When school started back up in the fall, I ended up having two classes with my rapist. I still remember when he ran into me in the hall and told me to “Smile.” My friend who had been in the other room when it happened started telling kids in our high school. People would whisper behind my back, and I knew I was being judged. Even around my few true friends I felt different. I started pulling away from everyone. Friends, coworkers, even family. I kept falling deeper into this black hole that I didn’t think I could ever climb out of. That’s when I started drinking and experimenting with drugs. There wasn’t a day that went by that I stayed sober, and I couldn’t differentiate between school days, work nights, or weekends. There was no difference to me. I started cutting my ankles. Then I got arrested for driving while intoxicated.

To be able to get this incident expunged from my record, part of my agreement with the courts was to talk to a therapist. For the first few sessions I wouldn’t speak, and then I began to open up. We talked about school, my family, my feelings, my substance abuse and finally the rape. My counselor helped me realize that I was not alone. I had friends and family that I could talk to and that could help me get through what had happened to me. I quit drinking and I quit all the drugs that I had tried. It was hard but by the time I turned 18, I had beat my substance abuse.

What I learned was that I was NOT alone, and if I had realized that earlier, maybe I could have avoided everything that had piled up after the rape. Always remember that no matter what happens, you are never ever alone, and you ARE a survivor. Today I look at my scars and I know I AM A SURVIVOR. I am now in control.

May 8

Alcohol: Not a Game

Posted By iamincontrol | May 8, 2014

Empty bottles
By Cali

Are you in control of your life or would you say that your friends are in control of your life? It’s time to start doing what you want to do with your own life. Make the right choices for yourself. When I was in high school, I drank alcohol to fit in with all my friends. My friends always peer pressured me into things I shouldn’t have been doing. One night, things got out of hand.

It was a normal night in my small home town. Everyone knew everyone and every little gossip got out. My friends and I got invited to a party that night, but we knew of a better party that was going on so we decided not to go. We knew the people that were going to the party, and they were going to be playing drinking games. They were going to start right after school.

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Apr 3

How I Let Alcohol Affect My Life

Posted By iamincontrol | April 3, 2014

 Teenage girl
By Anonymous

The beginning of my junior year of high school was going perfect, so I thought. I had the best boyfriend and friends a girl could ask for. My friends that I would hang out with every weekend were big into partying. So I thought that I needed to impress them and give into peer pressure. I went to some parties here and there with my friends, and they were pretty fun.

One Saturday night we went to a big party an older kid was throwing. We were there for about an hour, and then the next thing I knew, the cops showed up.  Everyone at the party was trying to run and hide from the cops.  That didn’t work very well because there were only two ways out of the house, and there were cops by both of those doors.  Eventually we were all sat down and were breathalyzed. They ended up giving us all tickets and wrote our names down. The cops turned the names into our school and most of us were athletes, so we had to sit out games.

After this happened I didn’t go out for the rest of my high school career. One night of partying isn’t worth getting in trouble and having to sit out and watch everyone else play. At first I wanted to blame my friends for peer pressuring me to go to this party, but then I realized that it was my fault. No one can make me do anything, I make my own choices. If you ever run across a situation like this, don’t give in. Stand your ground and make the right choice.

Mar 6

Who I Was and Who I am

Posted By iamincontrol | March 6, 2014

Teen girl
By Kallie

For many people, high school means trying to fit in and doing what other kids are doing to fit in.  In middle school I was overweight and because of that I was picked on.  I had friends, but I was not in the “popular group.” Before starting high school I lost all my extra weight and I was proud of myself.  I had a new look for myself and had more self-confidence.  All of a sudden I was in the popular group and now I was doing the bullying.  I felt like I had to do what my new friends were doing, so I could stay with the in crowd.

Before I knew it I was making decisions just to stay in the popular crowd that I know my mom and dad did not raise me to make.  I was drinking on a daily basis, and I even picked up smoking.  I lied to my parents and lost their trust.  When I started college I regularly skipped classes.  At this point in my life I had hit rock bottom.  My boyfriend of three years broke up with me, I failed classes, and my drinking led me to an OWI.  As a result of my OWI I lost my license and had to spend time in jail (possibly affecting my chance of getting a job in the future).   At this point I needed to assess my life and change the direction I was going.

I decided I needed to change my whole life and just focus on me.  I needed to figure out what was important in my life and strive to achieve things, like my schooling.  I focused all my attention on my studies and myself.  I joined a gym and worked out on a daily basis.  I quit drinking alcohol, along with pop.  The only places I usually went were school, the gym, and my house.  I once again lost a bunch of weight and had more self-confidence, along with a better overall feeling about myself.  Everyone will make mistakes in their life, but the important part is that you learn from the mistakes and better your future.  I have now graduated with my Dental Hygiene degree and am about to graduate with my bachelor’s degree.  Be the person you want to be and not the person someone else wants you to be just to fit in with the popular crowd.