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Nov 4

Putting Friends First

Posted By iamincontrol | November 4, 2014

teenage friends
The results are in! 

Last month we asked you guys:

Do you ever spend too much time with your boyfriend/girlfriend and forget to spend time with your friends?

You guys said:

  • Yeah. I want to spend as much time with my boyfriend/girlfriend as possible. (50%)
  • Sometimes that happens, but I try to make it up to my friends later. (33%)
  • Never!  My friends always come first. (16%)

It’s easy to get caught up in a relationship.  It’s exciting, and you might want to spend every waking hour with this person.  But remember that your friends and family are the ones who will be there for you if anything ever goes wrong.  Read how Hannah learned that below.

By Hannah

I think that all of us girls have heard the saying “pick your girls over your boyfriend” at least once. For years I didn’t always agree with this saying. For the majority of us, it takes a bad relationship to realize how much truth is in this. When I was a freshman in high school, I got romantically involved with one of my best friends. I spent the majority of my weekends and free time with him instead of with my close group of friends. I would try to plan things with them both, but looking back, I really wish I had chosen the girls. High school goes by fast, and spending as much time with your friends that will be there in the end is something I didn’t consider.

My boyfriend changed for the worse and didn’t always treat me right. I didn’t always get to make my own decisions, and he was often very mean to me. I wish now that I would have listened to my family and friends. I learned that I should have focused on who my true friends were and taken advantage of the time we had together. My boyfriend broke up with me out of the blue. After that I realized that boys do come and go, but my girls will always have my back.

I’m not advising you to never date in your teen years, but try to create a balance in your life. You never know where life may lead you, so balance your life. Spend time with your family and never forget who is there for you. Don’t throw everything you have away for a boy.

Read the blogs below for more relationship stories:

Breaking Up
Trust Me, You Have Time
Falling in “Like”