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Jan 9

How Marijuana Affected My Relationship

Posted By iamincontrol | January 9, 2014

Unhappy teen couple
By Brianne

When I was a sophomore in high school, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was a grade above me and we got serious pretty quickly. Everything was amazing at first. He was the perfect boyfriend, and when we would fight, things always got resolved quickly and easily.

Things started changing the summer before my senior year. He was getting ready to go off to college and he was unsure of what to expect from the coming year. One night that summer, he was with his friends and decided to try smoking pot for the first time. He knew that I would not approve so he tried hiding it from me, but he could not keep secrets from me and ended up spilling the beans. It started to cause issues in our relationship very quickly. I had told him that I wanted to know when he was smoking so that I could be aware, but every time he told me; I would get angry with him immediately.

This became a vicious cycle that caused him to smoke more and more. We were both unwilling to put any compromise into the situation and started to resent one another. I always felt as if weed was more important to him than I was and he thought I was not trying to understand his point of view. This went on for at least six months before eventually causing us to break up on pretty bad terms.

From this experience, I learned that it is important to stand up for what you want and to take action if you are not happy in any relationship you may be in. If I had to do it all over again, I would have ended things much sooner and tried to keep things on better terms with my now ex-boyfriend.

Read IAMincontrol’s other posts for more information on healthy relationships and the dangers of marijuana.

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