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May 1

Fitting In at a New School

Posted By iamincontrol | May 1, 2014

 Group of high school teens
By Anaka

When I was starting as a freshman in high school, I had to transfer to a brand new school far away from my friends. I was terrified. There were twice as many students at my new school and I was starting out with no friends. I didn’t even know where my classes were located. On my first day I got up three hours before school to make sure my appearance was perfect so that I would attract new friends, but I had no idea what to expect once I got there. Family friends had told me that freshman year was a great time to transfer because everyone was looking for friends, but I didn’t believe them. Once I got to school and found my locker, I started to panic that I would have to sit alone in all of my classes. I didn’t even want to think about lunch!

My first class was math, which is my least favorite subject, and everyone was talking to each other and hugging and asking how summer vacations were. I sat in the back corner at an empty desk and pretended to be studying my schedule. Of course, teachers LOVE icebreakers, so shortly after the bell rang we were all standing up and introducing ourselves. I mentioned that my favorite TV show was Lost, and a few people cheered and high-fived me. Things were starting to look up!

Once I went through a few classes, I recognized a few girls that were in multiple classes and I started to sit with them. Lucky for me, they were very nice and they actually invited me to eat lunch with them and offered to introduce me to more friends as well. I felt completely relieved, and all of the stress from the morning had gone away. I was very grateful for the new friends I made.

My advice to students starting at a new school, or just looking for new friends in their existing school, would be to smile as much as possible and don’t be afraid to reach out and introduce yourself. More often than not, someone in your class will be looking for a new friend as well!

To learn more about the steps of making friends at a new school, visit this site.