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Dec 24

Breaking Up

Posted By iamincontrol | December 24, 2013

Breaking Up
By Morgan

Dating and breakups in high school can be some of the most stressful and difficult events for teens. I experienced a heartbreaking breakup my senior year of high school. I was dating a boy a year younger than me for more than two and a half years, and we thought we were going to be together forever. We were very close – you could say we were best friends. My parents felt like he was part of the family, and they looked at him like a son. My little brother also became best friends with him, and he idolized him. My boyfriend and I were always together, and we had great communication with each other.

Then he started to distance himself and decreased his communication. I began to get very stressed out and did not know how to deal with the situation. I got to a point where I worried my mom so much that she took me to the doctor where I was diagnosed with anxiety. I began taking medicine in order to help reduce panic attacks and the stress. I continued to try to communicate with my boyfriend, but he continued to distance himself. I found out on Facebook that he had cheated on me, and it broke my heart. I understood it was an unhealthy situation, so I left.

I broke up with him because he was the one who made a bad decision and created the unhealthy situation. It wasn’t just a breakup between me and my boyfriend, but also with my whole family and my boyfriend. It was hard for all of us because we had become so fond of him and grown together. The pain of the heart break stuck around for a while, and I thought it would never go away. Luckily I had people in my life like my friends and family to help me through it. I would sit down with my mom about once a week and just talk about how things were going for me. It really helped boost my mood because she was more than happy to talk to me and help.

About a year later my ex and I made plans to meet up and exchange the things we had of each other’s, and to gain some closure between each other. The time in between the communication was very beneficial because it allowed me time to reflect on everything that happened. This experience taught me that things don’t always work out the way you expect them to, and you just have to go with the flow because everything happens for a reason. High school really limits you to the people you go to school with, but college opens so many doors for you. There are so many more people out there, so keep your hopes up. There is someone out there for you. You will find someone who makes you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.

Check out this great article for 7 HEALTHY ways to deal with a breakup.

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