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Questions, Answers and Resources for Teens
Use this resource for questions regarding your health, your relationships, your body and your sexuality.
While this site is informative, it is not a substitute for talking to your doctor, parents or other trusted adult.
Posted By iamincontrol | April 24, 2014
No matter how annoying younger siblings can be, we all have that protective big brother/sister instinct in us that comes out when they get hurt. We feel we have to protect them from things in this world that we don’t want them to ever have to experience, and when they do experience them, we feel a sense of failure that cuts deep.
I have a sister who is three years younger than me. We’ve gone through so much together. Our biological mother gave us up for adoption after giving birth to me at age 13, and my sister at age 16. This only made my sister and me closer. We got through foster care together and were fortunate to both be adopted by the same family. I was forced to grow up a lot faster and take care of my sister’s needs first. This seems like a huge task for a four year old, but you do what you have to do. Being placed in a good home allowed me to let someone take care of both of us, but there was still that sense of protectiveness in me.
Posted By iamincontrol | April 17, 2014
When I was in high school I had two jobs, and to be honest I made quite a bit of money. However, while still in high school, I was very privileged by my parents bill-wise. I did not pay anything. So I mostly spent my money on stupid things like getting my nails done, tanning, getting my hair done, eating fast food, going to expensive places with my friends and buying expensive purses or electronics that I did not need. I was also very privileged in the sense that my grandparents and parents bought my car as well as put money in a savings account for me for college. When I left to start college, all my incoming money came to a halt.
At first I was like, whatever, I’ll just take out the maximum amount of loans I am given, but I soon realized that wasn’t the smartest. I pay out-of-state tuition (which is expensive), and I realized I was just wasting the rest of my loan money. But, I am now a junior in college, and I try to take out the minimum amount of loans I need for school-related things like tuition and books because I do not want to be paying back my loans until I’m 90. Read More
Posted By iamincontrol | April 15, 2014
Now that it’s springtime, I officially have my countdown ready for the first farmer’s market of the season. And it’s right around the corner! Below are some reasons for you to check out a local farmer’s market in your area this summer.
- Fresh (and local) produce—Fresh fruits and vegetables are an important part of a healthy diet, and there is no better place to search for those than a farmer’s market. On top of that, buying local is the new trend, and it’s a good one. Not only does it help the local economy by supporting small businesses, it can be cheaper than supermarkets if you buy produce that’s in season.
- Free samples—Who can say no to free food? If you walk around the farmer’s market, you will likely see a lot of free samples. Take this opportunity to try new foods; if you like what you taste, ask for recipes.
- Getting in your exercise—Being active and walking around to all of the vendors is an easy way to get in all your daily steps and you don’t even realize you are being active. If you have a dog, take him/her for a stroll as well as many of the farmer’s markets are dog friendly.
- A job—Many vendors look for extra help in the summer, especially since farmer’s markets tend to be in the evening or on the weekends. If you are a people person and love to be outside, this may be a great option for a part-time job. Contact a local business if you know they are involved to ask about a job, or ask face-to-face while visiting. You never know if they might be looking another hand.
- Socializing—Go with a group of friends and spend time together. This is a great way to hang out with your friends that doesn’t have to cost much. Want to go by yourself? There is always a good chance you will run into someone that you know. The people that are working are usually friendly and willing to talk to anyone. And even if you don’t see someone you know, what’s not to love about people watching?!
To see what produce is in season when, visit this website.
You are in control of eating healthy, local foods.
Posted By iamincontrol | April 8, 2014
You’ve probably all heard of eating disorders, like anorexia or bulimia, but have you heard of Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)?
What is Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)?
BDD is when a person focuses on what they think is a flaw in their body and obsesses about it. It’s usually something that nobody else notices or thinks is a big deal. For example, someone might think their nose is too big, and while the people around them don’t really notice it. Even if their nose isn’t really big, that person can’t stop obsessing about it.
Compulsions and avoidance behaviors often go along with BDD. Compulsions are when the person feels the need to do something about their problem as a result of their obsessive thoughts. The person above might ask multiple people a day if they think their nose is too big. Avoidance behaviors might include staying home from school because the person thinks their nose is too big to even be seen in public. These behaviors are often a result of trying to “fix” their obsession or avoid thinking about it for a while, but in reality, these make BDD worse. BDD is controlling their life.
In the video below, a teen was diagnosed with BDD because she obsessed over her face shape. Read More
Posted By iamincontrol | April 3, 2014
The beginning of my junior year of high school was going perfect, so I thought. I had the best boyfriend and friends a girl could ask for. My friends that I would hang out with every weekend were big into partying. So I thought that I needed to impress them and give into peer pressure. I went to some parties here and there with my friends, and they were pretty fun.
One Saturday night we went to a big party an older kid was throwing. We were there for about an hour, and then the next thing I knew, the cops showed up. Everyone at the party was trying to run and hide from the cops. That didn’t work very well because there were only two ways out of the house, and there were cops by both of those doors. Eventually we were all sat down and were breathalyzed. They ended up giving us all tickets and wrote our names down. The cops turned the names into our school and most of us were athletes, so we had to sit out games.
After this happened I didn’t go out for the rest of my high school career. One night of partying isn’t worth getting in trouble and having to sit out and watch everyone else play. At first I wanted to blame my friends for peer pressuring me to go to this party, but then I realized that it was my fault. No one can make me do anything, I make my own choices. If you ever run across a situation like this, don’t give in. Stand your ground and make the right choice.
Posted By iamincontrol | March 27, 2014
Growing up in today’s society, it feels that everyone is having sex. Sex is everywhere, TV, music, movies, and hearing it from peers. During high school many of my friends lost their virginity by the time we graduated. I always sort of felt out of place, because I was still a virgin. It was not because I had religious beliefs I wanted to follow, it was just because I didn’t really have a stance on whether I wanted to wait or not. Therefore I decided to do some research and decide how I felt about sex.
I am a very visual person; I like pro/con lists a lot. When researching reasons to wait/not wait to have sex I put them into a chart. Many of the reasons to have sex were to grow emotionally closer to another person, feel pleasure, and show someone how much you love them. However, the reasons not to have sex were very daunting. STIs are among the number one reason to not have sex. They can impact your life and your partner’s life drastically.