POLLWhen do you consider yourself "in a relationship"?
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Questions, Answers and Resources for Teens
Use this resource for questions regarding your health, your relationships, your body and your sexuality.
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Posted By iamincontrol | March 4, 2014
Last month’s poll question was:
How much money should you spend on prom attire?
You guys said:
- $0-$25 – I’m just going to find something to wear in my closet or borrow a dress or tux from a friend. (0%)
- $25-$100 – I’m a bargain hunter. I can find my dress or tux and accessories for $100 or less. (40%)
- $100-$300 – I’m not going to go crazy, but I definitely want a new outfit and accessories. (60%)
- $300 or more – I only get to go to prom once or twice, so I need a one-of-a-kind dress or tux. (0%)
Prom night only happens once or twice in your life, so you want it to be memorable. Even if you’re planning on spending a fair amount of money to make your prom night perfect, there are a few things you can do to save a little cash.
- Borrow a dress or tux – Do you have a relative or friend with a dress or tux you can borrow? Especially if they go to a different school or are a few years older than you, no one will recognize it and know it’s not new.
- Make dinner at home instead of going out to eat – Having a potluck dinner where everyone brings something to eat is fun and affordable. Plus, you don’t have to worry about making reservations somewhere in advance.
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Posted By iamincontrol | February 27, 2014
I lost my virginity after my friends did. I was 16 and I pressured myself into having sex with someone I didn’t care about, just to lose my virginity, just to fit in with my friends. If I could take that night back, I would.
All of my friends were hooking up casually with guys each weekend. I didn’t want to feel different, so, giving into internal peer pressure to conform, I decided to hook up with someone too. I didn’t like the person emotionally or romantically. I barely knew him, but I did it anyways.
Afterwards, I was sad. I felt used and upset with myself. Because I saw my friends hooking up with people each weekend, I thought that was normal. Losing my virginity so young and by someone I didn’t care about began and continued a string of causal sexual partners, having sex with someone just to make myself feel good. But afterwards, it never made me feel good. It made me feel worse about myself. I internally thought that the acts of sleeping with someone would boost my self-confidence. I was very wrong. It made me feel worse, and I was caught in a circle of casual sex and self-hatred.
I have learned to take the act of having sex very seriously. The risks of STIs and pregnancy are a real threat, and my self-esteem is worth more to me than a random hook up with a person. If I could take back that night, I would. Making love with a person, who you care about and who cares about you, is priceless. That is what I wish I would have waited for.
Posted By iamincontrol | February 20, 2014
Getting a job in high school helped me grow into adulthood. My parents always made it clear that I would be provided everything I needed, but if I wanted anything extra I would have to get it myself. This included things like going out to eat with friends, paying for movies, or buying extra clothes that I wanted but didn’t need.
The first job I had while in high school was as a life guard. I first worked at our local outdoor pool over the summer. Then I got a job in a nearby town at a year-round indoor pool. I worked around 10 hours a week during the school year and around 30 hours a week during the summer.
Being able to work during high school and create my own income was a great experience that helped me to learn a lot of lessons about responsibility. I was able to have more freedom with what I spent my money on, and I was also given the opportunity to start saving money to make bigger purchases in the future, such as when I bought a car or needed money to go to college.
Posted By iamincontrol | February 18, 2014
High school is an important time to start making healthy choices for the rest of your life, especially food choices. At school, you are surrounded by many different food options in the lunch cafeteria, both healthy and unhealthy. Sometimes it was hard for me to choose the healthy choices over the yummier looking options. Being on the cross-country team, I learned that my workouts were affected by the foods I ate. I needed to learn to make healthy choices, even when the junk food looked better.
The big thing to remember is the habits you start creating in high school will transfer on to college. You need to practice healthy eating habits now so you can do it later in life. In college it gets even harder to make the right choice when parents aren’t around to supervise. Homemade nutritious meals turn into fast food meals.
Eating healthy will benefit you in many ways. In high school I was growing rapidly and was trying to perform better in sports, so proper nutrition was a must for me. I wanted to become the best cross-country runner I could by eating well. Running helped build my confidence and emphasized the importance of eating healthy. I noticed changes in my food selection and learned to choose the healthier choice. I have now established a healthy lifestyle from high school and college and love the impact it has on my life.
This website talks about how nutrition will help high school athletes perform their best. I recommend reading it for ideas and starting to make healthy choices today that carry on forever in your life!
Posted By iamincontrol | February 11, 2014
During my junior year in high school, I was obsessed with diet and exercise. I was a normal weight throughout high school, about 140 pounds. But, when I looked in the mirror, I thought of myself as “fat.” My friends thought I was normal and should not diet because it messes up your body. I did not want to believe them because I thought they were just telling me that to make me feel better. I started on Weight Watchers and by senior year of high school, I was down about 15 pounds. I exercised twice a day and was eating less than 1,000 calories a day. I was very tired, depressed, and had no energy to do anything. I made the cheerleading squad my senior year, but I just wasn’t myself. The night of our first football game, I had not eaten all day. We were in the process of doing a lift, and I was a base, which means I was holding the flyer who was going up in the air, and I just collapsed.
During my freshman year of college, I stopped dieting, but had gone in the other direction. Now my dieting turned into binge eating. I had gained more than 30 pounds, and was eating more than 2,500 calories a day. I knew this wasn’t right and I needed to stop, but food made me feel better when no one else could. I felt so guilty afterwards, and wanted to make myself throw up, but I never went that far. I would just keep putting myself down, and would just keep making myself more and more depressed.