POLLDo you ever spend too much time with your boyfriend/girlfriend and forget to spend time with your friends?
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Posted By iamincontrol | May 1, 2014
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Posted By iamincontrol | October 21, 2014
I developed an eating disorder in high school. It didn’t happen right away, but gradually during my first semester. I had just transferred schools. I had always been pretty active, but I noticed myself working out a lot more than usual. I was so busy with homework, tests, and adjusting to my new school and life that I really didn’t think anything of it.
After being at school for a few weeks, my family started to notice me slimming down. They complimented me on my hard work and becoming more interested in my health. It wasn’t long before that planted a seed in my brain that if I was going to work on my health, I would need to start eating healthy foods too.
That’s when everything went downhill. I started keeping track of everything I ate. I was so obsessed that I used a calorie counter app on my phone so I could record my meals to know how many calories I was consuming. I gradually started cutting back on my meals to see how low I could get my calories to be that day. I would also record how much I would work out and be able to see how many calories I would burn. I never went in public to exercise.
Posted By iamincontrol | October 7, 2014
Last month we asked you guys:
Do you have a credit card?
You guys strongly related to “I don’t have one yet, but I’m going to get one as soon as I can.“
Credit cards can have benefits if you understand and are experienced with them, but they can be dangerous too. It’s easy to overspend, and Rachael’s story below perfectly illustrates that. Read on to learn how she got into (and then out of) credit card debt.
Posted By iamincontrol | September 30, 2014
In 4th grade, my aunt told me a story about a relative who almost died choking on a food item. Not only was I terrified, but I started to think that I might die if I ate solid foods. From that day, I quit eating anything solid. I only ate ice cream, soup broth, milk, and water. During school, I would get my lunch tray filled with food, but pass the items to other students. At home, I wouldn’t eat and told my parents that I was not hungry.
One day at school they were serving one of my favorite desserts, a granola bar with chocolate frosting. I picked it apart to get smaller pieces. As I tried to eat, I spit the item back out and ran to the nurse’s office. I thought a piece of granola got caught in my throat. This probably only lasted 3-4 weeks, but it got so bad that my parents were going to take me to the hospital. When my mom told me that I would have to be stuck with needles and have tubes down my throat for me to get nutrition, I got more scared. As a kid, I was terrified of needles, and I was even more afraid of needles than I was of choking.
Posted By iamincontrol | September 25, 2014
Sexual coercion is a term used to describe when someone pressures, forces, or uses manipulation to get someone else to engage in a sexual act that they don’t want to do or are uncertain about doing. How about reproductive coercion? Maybe you’ve heard about it, but probably not. This term is being used to describe behaviors that interfere with a person’s decision about use of contraception or getting pregnant. It is typically a form of pressure or control that an intimate partner may use related to sexual activities. For example, a young man may put lots of pressure to have sex without using condoms because it affects his perception of pleasure – regardless of the risk to his partner for an STD or pregnancy. Another example would be a young woman who tells her boyfriend that she is using birth control but really isn’t because she wants to get pregnant (even if her boyfriend doesn’t). On the flip side, a guy who wants his girlfriend to get pregnant (even if she doesn’t) may mess with her birth control pills so she is not protected. There are usually two types of reproductive coercion: birth control sabotage (attempts to interfere with use of effective birth control) and pregnancy pressure/coercion (attempts to influence decisions about pregnancy).
Posted By iamincontrol | September 18, 2014
While the thought of a lazy summer sounds wonderful to some, it didn’t to me. I dreaded not having something to do every day. Rather than sit at home, I wanted to be able to do something every day and enjoy doing it. Once I was able to drive, I picked up a job during the school year working on the weekends. I loved the idea of being able to find a job that I liked, where I could make friends, and earn money. Working through high school gave me something to look forward to and gave me a sense of accomplishment.
Although my parents never forced me to have a job through high school, I felt like it was a good time to start working. It helped me create a balance in my life between school, friends, sports, and work. I wanted to be able to have a little extra spending money to go to a movie with friends or buy a new pair of jeans.