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Posted By iamincontrol | May 1, 2014
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Posted By iamincontrol | March 31, 2015
If you have ever watched ‘16 and Pregnant’ or ‘Teen Mom’ or even just babysat, you know that babies are a lot of work. Having a baby when you are young may derail your other goals like getting on the team, graduating from high school, going to college, or getting your dream job.
Thinking about your reproductive life plan may help you prevent having a baby when you are not ready.
Reproductive life plan?
A reproductive life plan is a way for you to think about your goals. Write down your answers to these questions:
- What are your goals for school?
- What kind of job would you like to have?
- What other goals are important to you?
- Do you ever want to have children?
- How would having a child fit in with your other goals?
- When would you want to have kids?
Another important question to ask yourself is, what would happen if you found out you (or your partner) were pregnant?
Baby? No way!
When you don’t want to have a baby and are having sex there are many options to prevent pregnancy. Condoms are great because they prevent sexually transmitted infections, they are cheap, and you can get them anywhere. But it is good to have another back up to prevent pregnancy. There are a lot of birth control options so find one that fits into your life. Talk to a doctor or nurse about all the birth control options available.
Do you want more information on creating your reproductive life planning?
Visit this Centers for Disease Control (CDC) website http://www.cdc.gov/preconception/reproductiveplan.html
For more information on birth control visit http://www.plannedparenthood.org
Posted By iamincontrol | March 24, 2015
Searching for health information on the Internet is super convenient. It’s fast, it’s available most places, and it might help you avoid asking your friends, parents, or doctor awkward questions. There are a lot of very trustworthy sites, but some are not. How do you tell the difference between a credible website and one that is not? Look for these three things:
- Look at who owns the site
This information may be right on the homepage or you may need to go to the “About Us” or “About this Site” link. Have you heard of this group? If you cannot find who runs site, you should probably keep find another site.
The site’s web address can also give you some information. Look at the end of the address.
- .GOV – owned by a government agency
- .EDU – owned by a school or university
- .ORG – owned by a non-profit organization. Depending on who owns this site, their information could be trustworthy or it could have a bias.
- .COM – for-profit companies and may be trying to sell you something
- Does the website have ads?
If it does, be cautious. The goal of the site might be to sell you something and may not be accurate.
- Has the site be updated lately?
A good health website will have a date of when the site was last updated or reviewed.
Some good sites to visit when you have health questions
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention – www.cdc.gov
Office on Women’s Health – www.girlshealth.gov
Young Men’s Health from Boston Children’s Hospital – www.youngmenshealthsite.org
What about Wikipedia?
This answer is tricky…it depends. Wikipedia lets anyone post to it so it depends on who posted the information. The information should be cited. If it is not then don’t believe it. If it is go to the source it cited, and then use this checklist on that source.
What about Social Media?
What about sites and apps like 4Chan, Redditt, Yahoo! Answers, Facebook, YouTube, or Twitter? Again, it depends who is writing it. If it is a reliable group with a reliable website then you can probably trust what they say. Otherwise, beware.
What if I am still not sure?
One thing you can do is check a few different sites. If they all say the same thing it is probably accurate. If you have any more questions or are still not sure, it is always best to talk to a doctor or nurse.
Posted By iamincontrol | March 24, 2015
Wii Avatars are just creepy, don’t you think? The Mii (Wii Avatar) looks just like me: from my hair to my skin tone to even the uniqueness of my eyebrow. It strangely looks just like me—well, my appearance anyway. But I started to wonder– does the avatar actually show users some of my character and qualities?
A recent study actually answered that question. In that study, researchers found that an avatar actually tells users about different characteristics of their personality. AND, if you try to make the avatar not look like you, your personality STILL comes through to users. People were asked to rate avatars on five different personality traits. People correctly identified 3 of the 5 traits. What they found can help us understand how people view new potential friends.
From the study, use these three tips to make friends:
- Start with a smile: Researchers found that avatars that smiled were more likely to become friends with users. So start a conversation with a smile.
- Open Eyes, Open Heart: Without knowing it, in crowded rooms, we look at individual’s eyes for their intentions. Avatars that had open eyes appeared friendlier.
- Start with the Right Foot: Avatars that started with a conversation such as “Sup” or “Hey” were less likely to receive a response from someone. So use things like “Hello, how are you?” and quickly trying to find something in common, a favorite sports team, favorite class, or favorite TV series/movie.
Using these tips will get you off to a good start of becoming friends with someone, but keep in mind that people are far more complex in real life than in World of Warcraft. So remember that there is more to people than their outward appearance or avatar.
Posted By iamincontrol | March 19, 2015
I know it’s only March, but summer is right around the corner. I love summer; it is hands down one of my favorite seasons. From the weather, sun, no school, outdoor activities; you name it, I am a summer kind of guy. But with the summer comes hot weather, which means sweat. But sweat can tell us a lot about our health.
First off, what is in our sweat? There is water, salt, electrolytes and metabolic waste contained within the liquid. The average person sweats four gallons of fluid a day. Gross. But a foot alone can produce a cup of that sweat a day. Each person has 2-4 million sweat glands around their bodies. The number of sweat glands tells you how much you sweat. So if you have sweaty feet, you have a larger amount of sweat glands on your feet. Lastly, we sweat because it is the body’s way of cooling down the body after movement.
There are lots of things that cause us to sweat more. Alcohol, drugs and tobacco can cause you to sweat, as well as prescribed and illegal drugs. Furthermore, that greasy cheeseburger and fries cause you to sweat. But interestingly, sweat itself is odorless– it is actually the bacteria that are naturally on our skin that causes us to smell from sweating. So next time you go for a run or sweat a lot, make sure to replenish those things you lost with a drink of water or electrolytes in fruits and veggies. For more information on sweat: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/sweat.html
Posted By iamincontrol | March 17, 2015
Like any teenage girl throughout my high school and early college years, I struggled with body image. I always thought I was too fat and I wanted to look like the supermodels and actresses. The best solution I could think of was to stop eating. If I wanted to get skinny, why would I eat? For a few years I lost weight, and when I was hungry I would chew gum and drink water to try and fill up. I would definitely consider myself anorexic, and I was well on my way to losing too much weight.
After a few years of this, I realized that I had a problem. I tried eating more and working out, so that I could be healthy instead of just skinny, but it was still really hard. What finally completely snapped me out of it was an article about the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show of 2014 that one of my friends sent me. I never watch the fashion show, but I’ve seen the models and I see people writing all over Twitter and Facebook about how they wish they looked like that and how they are “never eating again.” After I read this article, I realized how much pain these models have to go through to get the body that they have. It just doesn’t seem worth it to be that skinny. Being healthy is more attractive than having your ribs and collarbones sticking out. The most meaningful quote from the article that I found was this:
“Love yourself enough to know that you are not the sum of what you look like. Spend time focusing on loving you for you, not trying to be another girl. You have a soul, you have dreams, and you have so much to offer the world – I truly don’t believe this show helps any woman remember that or know that more deeply in her spirit.”
I saved this quote in my phone, and whenever I’m feeling down about my body or myself I read it. It really helps me remember how important it is to be myself, and not compare myself to other women. I am who I am, and I should be very proud of that.
Here is the link to the article: http://lifeteen.com/self-esteem-victorias-secret-fashion-show/
Posted By iamincontrol | March 5, 2015
I am sure we have all heard about secondhand smoke. Yes, being around others who smoke is dangerous for your health. But have you heard of thirdhand smoke? This is a new term that has been getting a lot of buzz. Thirdhand smoke is the bad chemicals and tiny particles that stick around from tobacco smoked a long time ago. This can be in the carpet of someone who previously owned the house or on the clothes of a friend whose parents smoke. It can be a terrible smell, but it can also indicate the presence of toxins.
A recent that thirdhand smoke can cause the formation of cancerous materials. The study found that nicotine combines with common things in indoor air to create cancer-causing materials for you to eat and breathe. Yummy. This can especially be found in the dust that naturally occupies that space under your bed and in your home’s heating and cooling system.
Something that can be difficult is to negotiate is a smoking policy with a parent or friend who is a smoker. Use these tips:
- Start a Conversation: Talk to your loved ones and tell them about your concerns for your health and their health
- Support Their Efforts: Quitting smoking is hard work and they need support over judgment. Iowa Department of Public Health has a Quitline at 1-800-764-8669 and a website https://www.quitnow.net/iowa/ with lots of resources for you and your loved one.
- Create guidelines: Ask your loved one to smoke outside and not in the house or car. Talk about the toxins getting on their clothes. Then stick to the created plan.
Posted By iamincontrol | March 3, 2015
If you can drive, do you Text and Drive?
- All the time, snaps, tweets, texts, Insta pics (100%).
- Sometime just an occasional text (0%)
- Absolutely NOT! (0%)
Overwhelmingly, you guys are sending a least some form of text message while you drive. And I have to omit that I have been known to send the occasional text of location to friend. It can be hard to put that phone down. I know what you are thinking, the second that I look down at my phone will not matter. But recently, my friend called me and said she had totalled her car. She was snapchatting a video of her singing “Turn Down for What?” And she crashed her car.
She was lucky and survived the crash, but needed to get a new car. There are a lot of statistics out there about distracted driving. Distracted Driving is when you either: take your eyes off the road; take your hands off the wheel; or take your mind off driving. Over 3,000 people were killed in crashes involving distracted driving each year. So you are not alone, but that text can wait. Your parent, friend, or significant other will not be upset if you do not respond. Take the time to unplug and have ‘me’ time, it makes you happier.
Here is a link to take a pledge to stop texting and driving: http://www.att.com/gen/press-room?pid=2964. Also there is an app called DriveMode, which will shut down alerts on your phone while you drive and autoreply to all incoming texts and emails that you are driving and can’t respond now. You won’t regret doing these.
Posted By iamincontrol | February 26, 2015
If you think talking with your parents about sex is awkward, think again. My mother was my sexual health teacher. That’s right, when I went through sexual education, my mother was the one showing the pictures of different Sexually Transmitted Infections and telling me how to us a condom. It was mortifying, when my fellow teammates, classmates, and peers would tell me about the questions they asked my mother.
I dreaded the semester I had to step into my mother’s classroom to be one of her sexual health students. But it just so happens that talking and being open with my mother about sex was very beneficial. My mother is a wealth of knowledge about sex and my body. While my mother is an expert on sexual health, your parents may not be; but I bet they have good advice to pass on about values and putting things into perspective. So many of you may be wondering– how do you bring up sex to your parents, because you may want them to know or you may need to seek medical attention for something with sexual health. Well, here are my Top Three Things to Think about Before Talking to Your Parents:
- Teenagers at One Time: Think about it your parents were teenagers at one time too. They can give you a lot of advice about sexual relationships. They probably have gone through something similar.
- Admit Your Nerves: Your parents know that it is a hard conversation. Start with something like, “ Mom or Dad, this is something that isn’t easy for me to ask you about”
- Think about What You Want to Say: Go through what you want to say and how you want to start the conversation. Start with something along the lines. “Mom/Dad, did you ever feel pressured to have sex?”, “Mom/Dad, when you were my age were you curious about sex?” Make sure to pick a location that can get your parents full attention, like home.
By thinking about these tips, you’ll be off to a good start. If the conversation doesn’t go as expected or you don’t think it would be a good idea to talk to your parents, you could find another person you trust- aunt, doctor, friend’s mother or school nurse. Yes, it’s a nerve-wracking experience, but it is worth it.