POLLHow often to do you see peers participate in activities that are not typical of their gender?
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Posted By iamincontrol | May 1, 2014
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Posted By iamincontrol | July 29, 2014
I have had severe anxiety since I started junior high school. Stomach aches and panic attacks were issues that I had to face daily. Even going to school or the store caused me extreme anxiety. I understand how it feels to be scared of daily events, and I never want anyone to have to feel the way I did. That’s why I want to write this blog and help anyone who has feelings like these. You are never alone, even though it may feel like it.
I remember my anxiety started to show the day my mother left to go on a trip without me. My mom dropped me off for school like normal, and after school I was to stay with my sister for a week. I had never spent that much time away from my mom, and I was terrified that something was going to happen to her. Right after I got to school, I felt extremely sick and I asked my mom to stay home with me. She of course couldn’t, and I was distraught. I went and stayed with the counselor for the rest of the day because I couldn’t get my anxiety under control.
Posted By iamincontrol | July 24, 2014
The first time I visited a Planned Parenthood center, I was 16 years old. It was very nerve-racking, so I made sure to ask one of my good friends to tag along to support me. It was very easy to make an appointment: I just picked up my phone. Once I arrived at the center, I filled out a few forms, which is normal for first time patients. They were mainly focused on my overall health and any sexual history. We waited for a short period of time, and then I was called back into the room. The nurse came in and asked me some questions regarding my forms that I had filled out and took my blood pressure and weight. I waited for the doctor to come in and perform the examination. The doctor was very nice and explained to me the process of the examination. She completed the exam and then explained to me the many types of birth control available and what option she thought would be the best for me. I chose the birth control pills because I felt that this would be my best option. The doctor explained to me how to take the pills, when to start them, and the benefits and possible side effects from them.
Posted By iamincontrol | July 17, 2014
A dog is a girl’s best friend. We adopted Otis when I was 9 years old. I remember like it was yesterday. He was a small, baby pug. When I got him, he was 4 pounds and 6 weeks old (way too early to be away from his mother) and needed a lot of attention.
I did anything and everything for Otis, including rocking him to sleep at night and taking him for walks in a stroller. He was a spoiled but bad dog. Otis would chew all the furniture, steal your socks, and loved eating pig ears even though he would make a mess all over the house. Even though he was naughty, Otis was like my best friend. He was there when I had no one else to talk to. He also was the best listener, as I did not know who else to turn to through my awkward preteen years.
Otis grew up to be a big boy weighing almost 30 pounds. However, this turned out to be a problem and he developed an intestine dysfunction. One day he needed emergency surgery, and he did not make it out of surgery.
That day, I thought the world was over. For 7 years, I had always had Otis. Now I didn’t. Dogs are great best friends. However, just like humans, they pass with time. Through this I learned to cherish the time you have with your best friends, as you never know when your last time to tell them you love them may be.
I thought this video described my life with Otis perfectly. He was always there just like Maddie in the video.
Posted By iamincontrol | July 15, 2014
One of the most important parts of my high school career was athletics. Throughout high school I participated in volleyball, soccer, and softball. Volleyball and softball had been sports that I had played practically my whole life. Soccer, on the other hand, I had never competitively played until my sophomore year in high school. By the end of my three years of soccer I was so sad that it was over. I had improved so much over that time and wished I could have played longer. Soccer helped me make strong friendships and a strong body. I have never been more in shape in my life than when I was out for soccer.
Athletics are a great way to stay in shape, make new friends and spend time with old ones, and also another way to stay out of trouble. Even if athletics aren’t your forte, there are other high school groups that students can get involved with. Athletics just have the added bonus of improving your fitness. My experience also taught me it’s great to try new things because you may find out that you really enjoy it!
Visit this site for more information on extracurricular activities and how to find one that’ll be right for you.
You are in control of trying new things.
Posted By iamincontrol | July 8, 2014
When I was in 6th grade, I had my first and only boyfriend. We dated for like 8 days. It was very serious. A couple days after he broke up with me (in homeroom of all places!), we were at soccer practice, and some girls came up to me and said, “Joe broke up with you because you’re chubby.” I felt like I was kicked in the stomach. Later Joe came up to me and explained that he actually said he broke up with me because I was “pleasantly plump.” That wasn’t much better.
Either way, after that I was VERY aware of how I was bigger than the other girls. I also started to think twice when my stepdad told me not to eat my favorite sugary cereal because it was bad for me. But how could Cinnamon Toast Crunch be bad for me, when it made me feel so good? My mom, despite her good intentions, would try to get me to pick a bigger size in clothes. I never wanted that. I didn’t want to give up my favorite foods that all the other girls got to eat, and I didn’t want to wear an XL when all my friends wore smalls. How uncool would that have been?