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I AM in Iowa Adolescents Making Choices to Control Their Future Teen:Health, Relationship, Body and Sexuality
May 1

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Posted By iamincontrol | May 1, 2014

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May 26

When and How To: Testicular Examinations

Posted By iamincontrol | May 26, 2015

Many of the types of testicular cancer can be found in the early stages. This is why it is important for all guys to do Testicular Self-Examinations on a monthly basis. Ashutterstock_240581038lthough the cancer is rare in teenagers, it can be found in individuals as young as 15. These monthly tests help you become aware of what is the normal for your body. Here are the steps to a testicular self-examination:

  1. The examination should be completed during or right after a warm shower or bath. This allows for the scrotum (skin that covers the testicles) to be most relaxed, which makes it easier to examine the testicles.
  2. Feel one testicle at a time, by rolling each testicle between your fingers to feel the surface of the testicle.
  3. You should feel epididymis (the sperm-carrying tube) at the top/back part of each testicle. It is usually soft, but still a bump. This is a normal part of a testicle.
  4. If you feel any other bumps or soft spots, please seek medical attention.
  5. For some guys, one testicle will be smaller than the other.

Sometimes, if lumps are found, you should not be alarmed. They may not be cancerous, but still should be checked by a doctor. These examinations are a step to being cancer-free. Have more questions? Here’s more information:

May 21

5 Ways to Spring into Happiness this Spring

Posted By iamincontrol | May 21, 2015

shutterstock_175803986SPRING IS FINALLY HERE!! And I am ready for long sunny days full of sunshine, friends, and being outside. The winter months of blustery winds and ice are long done. It’s time to tell Elsa to take a break and let’s ring in summer!

Maybe the winter months were harsh for you and it’s time for a new beginning. I know I felt the winter blues, but spring is the time to spring back into the old (or new) me. Here are five ways to spring into happiness this May.

Self-Care Sunday- Get that homework done on Saturday and take care of yourself on Sunday. Take a bubble bath. Get some exercise. Spend the whole day with friends. Create this day for recharging your battery.

Attitude of Gratitude- Showing thanks to others around you is a good way to boost your mood. You will be surprised at how great it feels to tell those around you “Thank you.”

Forgive and Forget- If one of your friends hurt you or your feelings, maybe it is time to forgive them for the betrayal you feel. Sit them down and tell them how you feel and why you are hurt. I know they will understand and you will have a weight off your shoulders.

Give up on Perfection- We are all human, so let go and stop trying to be perfect in all aspects of your life. Be it school, friends, or a school activity. Your best is almost always good enough.

Stop Comparing Yourself- It’s human nature to compare yourself to others around you. But it needs to stop. It takes away your ability to be happy, it’s eating you up.

These simple steps will get you on a track to a great spring.

May 19

Three C’s of Decision Making

Posted By iamincontrol | May 19, 2015

May is college decision month and many of you are about to make a decision on the next step of your life. But some of you may not be ready to make other decisions in your life, like whether to break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend or even what to wear to school today. I am just as indecisive as the person next to me, so let me give you the tshutterstock_129115220hree C’s of decision making to assist you with your next big decision.

Clarify– Decide what the issue is at hand and what outcome you want. Are you trying to decide on a college that will push you academically or push you both academically and personally? Are you trying to decide if you want to stay with your boyfriend/girlfriend or change the way your relationship works?

Consider– Make a list of possible alternatives and consequences for each alternative. In addition, consider positives and negatives (pros vs. cons) to each alternative. Analyze these lists with a friend or family.

Choose – Choose the best alternative or option with the best pros or the least cons. And then, you need to take the steps to complete the action. Make sure to follow through with your decisions.

By using the three C’s, you will be on your way to making tough decisions much easier.

May 14

Summer Bod Ready? Three Ways to Eat Well and Get Ready the Healthy Way for this Season.

Posted By iamincontrol | May 14, 2015

shutterstock_210165988Summer is right around the corner and after this last winter, I have a few extra pounds from my hour long hibernations with snacks and Netflix. There is nothing wrong with those pounds, but some may feel like they would like to shed them. Here are three ways to shed those pounds in a healthy way:

  1. Drink 8 Glasses of Water– The rule is 8 by 8. That is 8 glasses of 8 ounces of water. This will help you flush out toxins and stay hydrated.
  2. Increase Your Vegetable Intake– Add more vegetables to pasta or your morning eggs. This will help you get needed nutrients.
  3. Stick to the Lean Meats– Some meats contain fat and need to be limited. Lean meats, like chicken and fish, will help you regulate your fat intake.

If you follow these simple rules, I know you will be on your way to feeling better and ready for the fun summer events.

May 12

Bullied to Homecoming Queen: My Journey through Bullying

Posted By iamincontrol | May 12, 2015

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I was the Homecoming Queen my senior year. That must mean I was liked, but that is not how it used to be. I used to be bullied and barely had any friends. People would love to make fun of me for my religion and anything else that came to mind. They started rumors about me and people believed they were true. I was that kid that ate lunch in the teachers’ room, because no one wanted me at their table. This continued from 7th to 10th grade. I did nothing about it. I would pretend that it did not bother me, but then go home and cry. I never said anything to stand up for myself. One day, I finally broke. I decided that I did not care if people hated me. I was going to stand up for who I was and not be afraid. That is when they started to realize that it hurt me so bad. Some said they were sorry and stopped. They even started to stand up for me too. It all slowly got better from there. You really just have to stand up for yourself. Sometimes, people do not realize that they are hurting you or think you do not even care. Be proud of who you are. The rest of high school was a blast. I still had some difficulties, but when I stood up for myself I got through them. Senior year, I did not expect to even be on court, so when my name was called I was very surprised. I did not realize that people actually liked me or even noticed me. When I was crowned queen, I did not even know what to do. This proves that if you are stuck, it is only temporary. You are in control of yourself, be who you want to be! This video is about bullying and how to stand up to it. It is a very inspirational video. Check it out.


May 7

Caffeine Powder

Posted By iamincontrol | May 7, 2015

I’ve heard it said, “I will sleep when I am dead.” Sometimes being in high school or middle school can mean late night or shutterstock_148529384early morning practices or meetings. It can be hard to jam all that into a day. And without doubt, your sleep is the most likely thing that suffers from a jam-packed schedule. I am most productive and happy when I get anywhere between 10-12 hours of sleep, while other teens should be getting between 8-10 hours. And I know it becomes easy to grab that Dew or coffee. But lately, it seems that caffeine powders have shown up as an option to increase your energy level. So what are they anyways and what effects do they have on our body?

The powder is actually 100 percent caffeine, so a small spoonful can equal 25 cups of coffee. It sounds cool and exciting? That amount of caffeine can cause dangerously high heartbeats, seizures, and even death. It is very easy to overdose with this type of drug. A lot of these substances are being sold as a source of energy and have similar packaging as protein powder. Please be aware of what exactly you are putting in your body. The U.S. Food and Drug Administration advises against any use of these powders. For more info:

May 5

Marijuana Use

Posted By iamincontrol | May 5, 2015

The results are in from the blog and they can be found below:shutterstock_157734158

What are your thoughts on marijuana?

Marijuana is very bad for you (Percent)

I think there are worse drugs, but marijuana still has some bad effects (Percent)

I don’t think marijuana is bad for you at all (Percent)

Regardless of your opinions of marijuana, IAMinControl is here to give you the helpful facts about marijuana. Here are five facts about marijuana:

  1. NOT EVERYONE IS DOING IT: The 2014 Monitoring the Future shows that the number of teens using marijuana has been going down. In fact, drug usage amongst teenagers has gone down across the board. GO US!!
  2. MARIJUANA IS ADDICTIVE: Users get addicted to the “high” they feel from using the substance.
  3. REDUCES SCHOOL PERFORMANCE: Marijuana affects attention and memory, it has been linked to grade drops in school.
  4. INCREASED MENTAL HEALTH CONDITIONS: Marijuana has been linked to depression and anxiety. It can increase your risk of developing a serious mental health condition.
  5. DROPPED IQ: Studies have shown that continued marijuana use can drop your IQ by 8 points.

Use these facts to make an informed judgment about marijuana– there are a lot of resources on the internet that have inaccurate information about its effects. For more information:

Apr 30

Your Period Uncovered

Posted By iamincontrol | April 30, 2015

This is our last installment of Stall Chats. Today, we will tackle menstruation, commonly known as a period. Here are six things that your period can tell yoshutterstock_200096879u about your health.

Period Pain: This happens to almost half of all girls that have their period. It’s caused by too much of the hormone that causes the shedding of your uterine wall. For the most part, the pain or cramps are normal. But sometimes they are severe and disabling, this can be a condition called endometriosis, which affects 10% of women. And you should probably contact a healthcare professional.

Color of Your Period: Your period can come in different colors: blueberries blue, strawberry jam, or cranberry juice. Blueberry color usually means you have higher estrogen levels and your period is usually heavier. Strawberry Jam means that your estrogen levels are a little low, which means the period is typically light. Lastly, cranberry juice is typically the normal color of a period.

Flow: Most women and girls only lose about a half a cup of blood during their entire period. Sometimes girls will experience prolonged bleeding and this can cause a condition called anemia (low iron in blood). Some girls can also experience a lighter flow as well and this can happen because of stress, poor nutrition, or hormonal changes.

Frequency of Period: You should experience a period every 21 to 35 days and it should last 2 to 7 days. When you are young, periods are more likely to be irregular.

Absence of Your Period: The first thing that comes to mind during a missed period is pregnancy, but there can be other reasons for the late period. Many times if you lose a lot of weight, have a diet change that is low in iron, gain weight, or huge stress these can cause a late or absent period. If you can’t be pregnant, you don’t need to seek medical attention for two months of a missed period.

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Remember that your period can tell you a lot about your health.


Apr 28

How to Let your Family Know You’ve Had Your Period

Posted By iamincontrol | April 28, 2015

Having your Period for the first time is an important milestone in any girl’s life. It is important to let someone know when you have hashutterstock_181003538d your period. Your period can come anytime between 8 and 13, but don’t be alarmed if it comes sooner or later. Everyone’s different, so their periods will come at different times. Here are four ways to tell your parent/guardian that you’ve had your period:

  1. Get your parent/guardian alone and be upfront: Get them alone and pick a time when you know he or she has time and can answer questions with no rush. Tell them you have important news or work it into a story. Remember your parents will be understanding and probably knew it was coming.
  2. Write them a note: If you don’t think you can tell them, write them a note telling them: “Hey, today I got my period! Maybe we can stop and get supplies at the drugstore later?” Then, put the note somewhere they will find it: under a pillow, in a toothbrush holder, etc.
  3. Send them a text: Sending a text is an immediate way of your parents/guardians knowing.
  4. Go Shopping!: If you still are unsure, go grocery shopping and when you get to the tampons and pads, tell your guardian/parent that you need those. They will probably buy them for you and then have a conversation later.

It can be hard to bring it up to your parents or guardians, but remember that they will understand and know it is something that happens to every girl.


Apr 23

Detox Diet–What the What?!

Posted By iamincontrol | April 23, 2015

Does anyone feel like 2015 is the Detox diet year? What is a detox diet and is it even good for you? IAMinControl is here to answer those quesshutterstock_238580671tions.

Detox diets are very popular with the promise of rapid weight loss and cleansing the body. Many of the diets vary but it is usually a time of fasting or going long periods without eating, followed by a strict diet of raw vegetables, fruit and fruit juices, and water. Some detox diets want you to take supplements to cleanse the colon.

There is no scientific evidence that these diets work. Many experts think they are successful because they encourage people to not eat processed foods that have solid fats and added sugar, which is not new to most diets. The diet is low in many of the essential things to growing like protein and vitamin/minerals. As a result, they are not suggested for teens.

If you want to go on this diet, get the OK from the healthcare professional. In addition, this is a fad diet that will die out. The only scientifically way to diet is to have a balanced diet based on fruits and veggies, whole grains, and lean protein with few sugars.

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