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I AM in Iowa Adolescents Making Choices to Control Their Future Teen:Health, Relationship, Body and Sexuality
May 1

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Posted By iamincontrol | May 1, 2014

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Jan 29

5 Ways to Rock Being Single on Valentine’s Day

Posted By iamincontrol | January 29, 2015

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, it’s that time of year when roses abound, candy in heart shapes is the norm, and everyone seems to be in love. I mean like EVERYONE! And sometimes it becomes really annoying when you are single. But you can hate on it, or embrace it, always choose to embrace. IAMinControl is here to give you some ideas to get past this Hallmark-inspired holiday without all a “single” stress.

  1. TV Series Marathon: One of my favorite Valentines was getting together with a big group of friends and binge watching a TV series on Netflix, while devouring our favorite foods. We avoided the couples all tshutterstock_92925673ogether.
  2. Throw an Anti-Valentines Day Party: Many people are having anti-valentine parties for those that are single to avoid the day all together. Make a fun play list complete with “Ridin’ Solo” by Jason Derulo.
  3. Make Valentines for all your friends and hand them out: Who said your valentine had to be your love? Make your friends your valentines.
  4. Make YOURSELF, your valentine: Treat yourself on Valentine’s Day, spend the day doing what you wanted to do and pamper yourself. YOU get to celebrate it the way YOU want to.
  5. Spend time with your grandparent or parent: I’m sure one of your grandparents or parents would LOVE to have you as their Valentine. Play their favorite board game. Best part of this, you don’t have to pay for anything.

While Valentine’s Day can be lame for those of us that are single, it doesn’t have to be. It can be fun and an exciting day for all.

Jan 27

Keeping Up With Barbie

Posted By iamincontrol | January 27, 2015

I know that many of you out there had Barbie’s growing up. In fact, the average American girl betweeshutterstock_87948964n the ages of three to eleven owns ten Barbie dolls. Barbie has been the most successful Barbie doll in the world. She’s ALL over: Europe, Asia, Australia, South America: THE GIRL travels, people. Anyways, have you actually ever looked at a Barbie. I mean I know you may have spent hours playing dress up and such, but have you ever actually looked at the doll.


According to Barbie’s proportions, if she were a life size woman, she would be 5’6” and weigh 120 pounds. Her body fat would be so low that she would not be able to menstruate. As for measurements they would be 38-18-34, which are just unrealistic and unhealthy.


Now, you may be asking, so what? Who cares? While not everyone is affected by the dolls they play with, many are and just don’t realize it. Our toys are typically things that give children a chance to practice being an adult (doctor kit, kitchen kit, etc.) So if Barbie is asking us to keep up with her unrealistic body type. Where is the Barbie with acne problems, realistic measurements, and lopsided eyebrows? Where is the Barbie that looks like the rest of us? Barbie is not reality, the way you naturally look is reality.

Jan 22

The Manly Thing To Do: Three Reasons I Got the HPV Vaccination

Posted By iamincontrol | January 22, 2015

As guys, we are constantly told to: Man Up! This may come from someone actually telling you this or implying it in a movie or TV show. It may come during a big play at a football game, asking that significant other out on a date, or in the Disney Movie where men seem to magically save the day. We are told that we have to be strong, never show emotion, and protect others at all cost. This is a stereotype that needs to stop.


Another stereotype that needs to stop is that only girls need the HPV vaccination. This is not true. When the vaccination first came out, it was only recommended for girls. But today, it is recommended for both girls and boys between the ages of 10 and 25, but highly recommend between the age of 10-12. I received the vaccination and here are the reasons why:

1.)   Throat Cancer- In a recent study from The University of Iowa, the number of people dying from throat cancer will surpass those that die of cervical cancer. While they cannot prove that HPV causes throat cancer, they believe that it may. And that is good enough for me. Throat cancer affects all sexes, not just females.

2.)   Warts, on my what? I want to avoid warts on my penis or really anywhere on my body. And the vaccination helps with that. (

3.)   Protecting Others – My personality is one that protects my loyal friends. So I want to protect any future partner or loved ones from a cancerous virus. This vaccination gets my immune system ready far before I am ready to have sex.
So it is time for guys to reclaim this “Man Up” term. Man Up and go ask your parents or physician to get you the HPV vaccination. It is Manly, it protects you and others, and makes you and others healthier.

Jan 20

Haters Gonna Hate- Rejection Sucks

Posted By iamincontrol | January 20, 2015

A friend of mine once told me, “If you don’t have haters, you are not doing something right.” And I, like most people, have had haters in my life. Haters in school, haters on the basketball team, haters in college admissions committees, haters in being turned down on a date. Haters abound. Rejection is all around and it sucks, but there are ways to deal with it.

I know that when I get rejected, I feel judged and inadequate. Then, the thoughts and ideas of myself become negative and horrible (also known as bad self-talk). This rejection spirals out of control quickly. It goes from a single rejection letter from ONE college in the mail to thoughts of never going to ANY college at all. I begin to feel hopeless and depressed. In turn, this affects my eating and ability to get out of bed in the morning. It’s just a vicious cycle of bad feelings.

There are three things I do when I face rejection. So one of them is to remember stuff that you are good at. For example, I will write down “drawing, talking to people, making people laugh, creativity, making some mad mac and cheese. “This helps me think of ways that I have done it right and faced acceptance. Then, I try to remind myself of all the times that rejection led to something better than I was expecting or could have dreamed of. Lastly, I spend lots of time with family and friends to get my mind off of it. I am not here to say that rejection doesn’t suck and isn’t hard, but there are ways to overcome rejection.

Jan 15

It’s Cold Season- Top Five Ways to Avoid the Cough, Sniffle, and Congestion

Posted By iamincontrol | January 15, 2015

Flu and Cold Season are well underway and I bet some readers may even be suffering from some sniffles at the current moment. Every January, without doubt, I will suffer from a cold and sinus infection. Now before you go and get all happy about going to the doctor to get an antibiotic, think about this. The cold virus has no cure and symptoms can last two weeks or more. So wait to see a doctor or use antibiotics until the virus has run its course. Antibiotic resistance has been on the rise. This is because people use antibiotics at inappropriate times, like to treat a cold. But here are five ways to treat your cold properly.

  1. Drink Lots of Water- Consume at least 5 large glasses of water. This helps flush the system and also passes fluids through your throat to soothe the soreness.
  2. Tea, Honey repeat- Honey is a natural anti-microbial and helps to soothe the throat. The warmth from the tea will increase blood flow to your throat and get more of those germ-killing cells to your throat.
  3. Sleep- This is the number one way to fight any sickness. So curl up in a ball and catch up on your favorite TV series.
  4. Fruits and Juices- Help increase your Vitamin C intake to help the immune system. Also, the juice cuts through the mucus built up in your throat
  5. Use Natural Ways to Combat Symptoms- There is no cure for the cold, but you can mask symptoms. I drop eucalyptus oil (same stuff in Vicks Vapor rubs people put on their chest) on my neck and drop it on the shower floor to help me steam out my sinuses.

Here are just a few tips to help you stay out of the doctor’s office for a simple cold. With these methods, you’ll be back on your feet in no time.

Jan 13

Stall Chats: What Your Poop is Telling You

Posted By iamincontrol | January 13, 2015


We are starting a new series here at IAMinControl called Stall Chats. Stall Chats will tackle all those questions you have about what’s coming out of your body. This month we will feature a piece on poop and pee, while next month we will cover sweat and menstruation. Feel free to Tweet at us (@IAMinControl) and we will answer any questions posed.


Today’s topic is poop and there is a lot of different things that poop can say about your health. First, the average person should poop between 1-3 times a day but it varies day-to-day. Your diet and exercise make a difference in frequency and volume of poo. Two other factors really matter as well: shape and color.  The two images below help tell you what is going on in your GI:











Your poop is an important part of what is happening inside your body and something that can help guide your nutrition and exercise plan. Below are some tips on how to have a healthy bowel.

Jan 6

Macklemore Speaks About Drug Abuse

Posted By iamincontrol | January 6, 2015

Rap has always been one of my favorite genres of music. My father, who grew up and lived in small town Iowa for all his life, hates rap with a passion. I am convinced that he does not like it because he can’t listen fast enough to know what they are saying. But sure enough, my father is quick to change the radio station as soon as he gets in my car to what he calls “real” music, which consists of oldies and country. Who has a father like that? One of my favorite rap groups is Macklemore and Ryan Lewis. I love their realness and ability to tap into real issues that people are struggling with, like homophobia, racism, and materialism.

One thing that Macklemore has never hidden is his struggle with drugs and alcohol. Macklemore first tried alcohol, then quickly found that he had no limit. He was constantly looking for that next high or next thing that would make him feel different. In the video link above, he says, “Drugs are something that wear you down, I was constantly thinking I was trying to seek that one revelation, that one thing that will make me better, but drugs don’t work like that” Macklemore lost his friends, family, and life to drugs. And once, he stopped using them he slowly had to rebuild that life. In his hit “Otherside”, Macklemore says this about drugs, “Hopeless, heading no where, my only motivation is what the dealer supplying, That pills, that drug, that crouch, growing up thinking I’d never do that drug, nobody every does, until you are stuck looking in the mirror thinking, I can’t believe what I have become. Swore I was gonna be someone, growing up everyone always does, we sell our dreams and our potential, to escape through that buzz” Here is some additional information on drug addiction by the National Institute of Drug Abuse.

Jan 1

Top Three Ways to Avoid Sexts

Posted By iamincontrol | January 1, 2015

The results from last months poll are in:


Have you ever received a sext (including over Snapchat)?


No, I have never received a sext of any kind (0%)

Yes, But Just Once or Twice (25%)

Yes, Several Times (75%)


Overwhelmingly, teens are receiving and sending texts. Nationally, 70% of teenagers receive or send a sext. But the shocking fact is that almost 61% of teens are pressured into send that text. Here are the top three things to think about before sending that sext:


1.)   Would they share it: If you broke up with your boyfriend or girlfriend would they share it with the basketball team or wrestling team? It’s easy to click the forward button and send it to all their contacts.

2.)   Use your gut feeling: If you get a little tingle in your belly that it is just not right, Listen up! You are probably right! Your intuition can be your strongest 7th sense in this moment.

3.)   How will you deal with it? If that picture gets sent out to all your student body, how will you deal with it? What if your mom or dad gets a hold of it? What about grandma? How will you deal with it?


These are things to think about. Is that picture really worth all the potential hurt and pain that could come from it? I don’t think it is. Check out this video about what could happen if you click send:

Dec 30

New Year, Let the Resolutions begin: Top Ten News Years Resolutions for Teens

Posted By iamincontrol | December 30, 2014

The New Year is fast approaching and that means its time to think of your New Years Resolution. IAMinControl is coming at ya with a Top Ten New Years Resolutions to ease your way into the New Year.

Top Ten New Years Resolutions for Teens

Have a Good Relationship with My Body- Enjoy parts of your body and embrace what’s been given.

  1. Change my Attitude about Food-Treat food as something needed to nourish your body, so do those Cheetos® do the trick or that apple?
  2. Stay in touch- a 2010 study showed that if you don’t have a connection to social ties and they are broken you are more prone to mental health issues.
  3. Exercise More- We all know that exercise helps with our health but also makes us feel good about our selves.
  4. Volunteer- A 2010 study found that people with positive emotions (such as volunteering) were 20% less like to have a heart attack and were more resilient and resourceful
  5. Get more sleep-Lack of sleep causes your skin to age, forget things, gain weight, makes you dumber.
  6. Set goals for ourselves- It’s easy to accomplish things when we have goals. It’s also meta to set goals as your new years resolution. Right?
  7. Have more confidence-join a group at school, ask someone to hang out, make more friends
  8. Cut toxic people out of my life- Negative people can bring you down, identify if they are needed in your life. Parents do NOT count.
  9. Spend less time on Twitter, Instagram, and Kik-Studies show that increase time on social media can lead to depression and other things 


    Now its time for you to decide, but let us know what you do decide. Our poll next month will ask:


    Does your New Years Resolution involve?

  1.  Nutrition (Cut back on drinking energy drinks and/or soda,  Eat less Cheetos, etc)
  2. Body Image (be happy when I look in the mirror, embrace my love handles, etc.)
  3. Mental Health (smile more, look up Classic Joke Wednesday on Ellen and share them, etc.)
  4. Exercise (Dance around to “Shake it Off” by T. Swift for thirty minutes a day)
  5. Sexual Health (Find out about different contraceptives, figure out how to use a condom)
  6. Life Skills  (Start a savings, embrace my haters, etc )
Dec 25

Going to the Gyno

Posted By iamincontrol | December 25, 2014

Winter break is almost here! That means no school, Christmas presents, and…lying on your back in a doctor’s office with your legs in stirrups??

Although it won’t be the most fun thing you could do in your time off from school, winter break is a great time to get in to see a gynecologist (or ‘gyno’ for short, like ‘guy-no’) for the first time. If your town or area doesn’t have a gynecologist or women’s doctor, don’t worry—most general family doctors and healthcare workers can do these exams, too! Doctors recommend that girls get in for their first check between 13-15 years old if sexual active. But you do not need a pelvic exam to receive birth control. If you haven’t already gone in, ask your parent about setting up an appointment over the holiday break.

It depends on the doctor, but most of the first visit will just be talking—about topics like sexuality, birth control, periods, and STDs, to start. The doctor or nurse will also probably do a short physical exam to make sure everything’s okay.

Remember that gynecologists go to school for a long time to specialize in women’s health—and that means women of all ages! So don’t be afraid to ask questions. They are there to help you!

For more information about what to expect during your first gynecologist’s visit, check out