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May 1

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Posted By iamincontrol | May 1, 2014

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Feb 23

Skincare 101

Posted By iamincontrol | February 23, 2017

The struggle to maintain clear skin is real. I have tried a lot of different acne products, but I realized that a lot of them were too harsh for my skin and that using something more gentle everyday was a much better way to take care of my skin. Being consistent with how you treat your skin can help to balance out oil or dryness. Here are some of the important things to know when making a skincare routine:

  1. Girl cleaning and care her face with various actions setDetermine Your Skin Type. Many products will come in different types for different types of skin. For example, products for dry skin will usually be extra moisturizing, and products that are oil-free or made for oily skin will help prevent you from feeling greasy. Products made for normal skin are usually made to keep your skin balanced and prevent your skin from getting too dry or too oily. Some products are also made for combination skin which is skin that only gets oily around the T-zone, or the part of your face where your forehead and nose make a T shape.
  2. Cleanse. Wash your face twice a day, once in the morning and once at night. Don’t over wash your face by washing it more than that unless you were exercising and built up a sweat or went swimming. Be gentle when washing your face. Scrubbing can cause your skin to make more oil which can lead to breakouts.
  3.  Eoliate. Eoliating products are similar to exfoliating products because they help get rid of dead skin cells that can clog pores. The difference is that eoliating products have acid in them that helps get rid of dead skin cells instead of rough beads that scrub your face. If you want to prevent acne, using eoliating products with benzoyl peroxide in them twice a week can help. Again, you don’t want to over-wash because harsh treatments can make your skin irritated and dry or oily and acne-prone.
  4. Moisturize. Even if you have oily skin, you should still use moisturizer. Cleansers can strip the natural oil from your face which is nice if your face is feeling greasy. But if you don’t put moisture back in, your skin will make more oil to replace what it lost and it can cause breakouts. If you have oily skin and are worried that moisturizer will make it worse, look for oil free moisturizers or ones that say “matte” or “mattifying” to find products that will fight shininess. Look for moisturizers to put on in the morning that have SPF protection in them to protect your face from sun damage that can age your skin.

For more information on skin care and what is right for your skin visit:

Feb 21

Prejudice & Discrimination- What’s the Difference?

Posted By iamincontrol | February 21, 2017

There are many unique people across the world, which is what makes our lives and each day so different. Sadly, differences between people can lead to negative thoughts, judgments, and poor behaviors. For example, taking a commonly held belief about a group of people, otherwise known as a stereotype, and applying it to one person is Skinny stick figurecalled prejudice. Prejudice includes incorrect negative attitudes or feelings toward a person based on their involvement with the specific group. Prejudicial thoughts can lead to discrimination. Discrimination is the deliberate negative action toward someone that occurs based on their gender, race, age, economic status or any other differentiating factor. Simply, prejudice is the unjustified views one holds towards someone else, but it becomes discrimination when one acts on those views. Below are some examples of how the two words are different, but also how something as simple as feelings can quickly turn into a behavior.

Situation 1:

Prejudice – “I don’t like Ashley as an employee because she is probably emotional like all women meaning she is more difficult to manage.”

Discrimination – “Since women are harder to manage, this company will avoid hiring them all together.”

Situation 2:

Prejudice – “Jason is probably a poor student because all my previous students with piercings were.”

Discrimination – “I won’t spend my time reading his work and just give him a bad grade.”

The words prejudice and discrimination are often used interchangeably, but the better we understand the words, the better prepared we are to combat the issues.

For more information about stereotypes, prejudice and discrimination visit:

Feb 16

He Said, She Said

Posted By iamincontrol | February 16, 2017

Rumors can occur at any point during someone’s lifetime and can be very damaging to someone’s mental health and reputation. Rumors are stories or exaggerations that flow through a group or community that are usually far from accurate, but may contain bits of truth. Knowing how to tackle a rumor that is spread about you can be very valuable if it ever happens to you.

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  • Don’t over react to the drama- handle it in a mature manner. By rising above the rumors and the spreaders of the rumor, less people will believe that the rumors are true. More people will likely respect you for your confidence.
  • Talk with trusted individuals such as your parents, a counselor, best friends, or another trusting figure in your life. These people can give you the social support and advice you may need.
  • Don’t retaliate by spreading another rumor. Creating another rumor can cause more anxiety and judgment for yourself.
  • If you can, speak calmly to the person who initiated the rumor and discuss the rumor at hand. You may even want to bring a supportive person to stand with you
  • Walk away from the negativity. Although this part is difficult, try to focus on positive thinking and remember that rumors almost always blow over with time.
  • Care for your mental health. Self-care can include taking part in relaxing activities, venting, or reflection.


Learning how to effectively communicate and handle rumors can make our lives easier and less stressful.

For more tips on how to deal with a rumor visit:

Feb 14

Costs of Teen Parenting

Posted By iamincontrol | February 14, 2017

teen comfortingBeing a teenager is hard enough! Your body is changing, and you’re under a lot of pressure from parents, friends, and school. What do you think happens if you, or your significant other, become pregnant? Here are the costs of pregnancy:


The medical costs of having a baby range from $10,000 to $15,000, including delivery of the child, tests, and prenatal care visits. Some of these costs are covered by insurance…if the parents have it.

Besides the medical costs, parents need to buy lots of things to prepare for the baby: a crib, crib mattress, sheets, bedding supplies, bathtub, bibs, car seat, diapers, baby wipes, and many others things. These things can cost between $1,700 and $4,600!


Many young parents drop out of school or do not go to college because they cannot handle being pregnant or raising a child while going to school. Two-thirds of teen mothers fail to get a high school diploma, and teen fathers generally have less schooling than fathers who have kids when they are older. Not having a degree can cause financial strains later in life since many people cannot pursue better job opportunities if they don’t graduate high school or go to college.


A lot of the emotional stress a couple may feel can be from having the baby, especially if the pregnancy is not planned. The mother may feel overjoyed, depressed, suicidal, angry and scared. She may be scared of the reactions of the father of her child and of her parents. She may also be scared of giving birth in general and fear for her future.


Having a baby is very physically demanding! It completely changes your body. Teens are more likely to have a miscarriage (loss of the pregnancy) or a premature birth (complications from having the baby too early) compared to older women.

Pregnancy is tough as it is. So is being a teenager! Don’t make things harder by mixing the two. There are plenty of blogs that talk about contraceptives like birth control and condoms. Be smart, and enjoy being young!

For more information about the costs of teen pregnancy visit:

Feb 9

You May Be Counting Them, But What Is a Calorie?

Posted By iamincontrol | February 9, 2017

When we talk about what to eat, dieting, or just food in general, the topic of calories comes up a lot. But what is a calorie? A calorie is a unit of measurement that tells us how much energy a food will give you. This energy comes from the carbohydrates, fats, and protein in your food and is used by your body to do everything- from moving your muscles, keeping you from getting sick, to helping your brain work properly. If you don’t get enough calories your body will not have enough energy to function properly, but too many calories can lead to weight gain because your body will store any extra calories as fat.

The empty plateBecause we want to have enough energy but not too much fat, it is important to think about how many calories you need to be eating each day. While many people think that the 2000-calorie diet seen on food labels is right for most people, it might be too little or not enough for you. The amount of calories you need depends on a number of factors: how tall you are, how much you weigh, and how much you are growing. Luckily, a tool has been developed to estimate your calorie needs based on your height, weight, sex, age, and activity level.

To learn more about calories, and fat too, visit:

To calculate your calorie needs visit:

Feb 7

How to Stop Cyberbullying

Posted By iamincontrol | February 7, 2017

Teenage boy looking at laptop in bedroom looking stressCyber bullying is the use of technology (like text messaging and social media) to harass, threaten, embarrass or otherwise distress another person. Cyber bullying occurs when people are mean virtually, rather than in person. Most of us have experienced some form of cyber bullying, perhaps without even realizing it. If you feel you are being cyber bullied, here are some suggestions:

  1. Tell someone. No one should have to go through bullying alone. Tell a friend or an adult you trust.
  2. Ignore it. Bullies only have fun if they get a reaction out of you. Don’t give them that satisfaction!
  3. Tell them to stop. Confrontation is never easy or fun, but it may get the bully to stop. Tell the person how their words and actions make you feel and how lame and uncool they are being. Be sure to not approach the person in an aggressive manner.
  4. Laugh it off. In some cases, the person may not be trying to hurt your feelings. People make jokes when trying to fit in. If you cannot find humor in their words or actions, however, try one of the other suggestions.
  5. Save the evidence. If the cyber bullying becomes severe, you may need proof. Take screenshots and don’t delete any emails, Facebook messages, text messages, etc. where cyber bullying occurs.
  6. Block them. Block the person from Facebook and your phone (and any other modes of accessing you). Cyber bullying will be harder for him/her if s/he cannot contact you. If you don’t know how to put blocks on your contacts, ask a friend or adult to help you.
  7. Report it to the content provider. If the bullying is coming from an anonymous source, you can contact the content provider and they can usually find out who it is. Follow this link for specific directions on how to report cyber bullying on each social network site:
  8. Call the police. If you feel at all unsafe or fear the safety of someone else, tell an adult immediately. An adult can help you decide whether police involvement is necessary.

For more info about cyber bullying and how to stop it visit:

Feb 7

Gender Roles & Valentine’s Day

Posted By iamincontrol | February 7, 2017

shutterstock_95551207Ahhh, Valentine’s Day, the day when girls are showered in flowers and chocolate by the perfect bae. But have you ever thought about showering your boyfriend in flowers and chocolate? Some boys may say it is too girly. But who decides what’s too girly and what isn’t?

Society does! Masculinity and femininity are gender roles. A gender role is the way people act to show they are a boy or a girl. These roles are created by society. Society encourages males to be more masculine and females to be more feminine.

In our part of the world, the gender stereotypes are opposite. For example, women are supposed to be dependent, emotional, and passive. On the other hand, men are supposed to be independent, non-emotional, and aggressive.

On Valentine’s Day, boys bring girls gifts like flowers and chocolates because they are expected to be aggressive and make the first move. Some girls don’t buy any gifts for their boyfriend because they think boys are too non-emotional to care. But gender is a continuum. Everyone has both feminine and masculine traits. Although society decides what is feminine and what is masculine, we are not bound to these categories.

Just like enjoying football doesn’t make you any less of a girl, wanting flowers on Valentine’s Day doesn’t make you any less of a boy! All that matters at the end of the day is that you are being yourself!

To learn more about gender roles and stereotypes visit:

Or for a little humor check out this video about gender roles in the real world:

Feb 2

Is Gluten-Free Just a Trend? & Poll Results

Posted By iamincontrol | February 2, 2017

Poll results are in and the teens of Iowa think gluten-free is not a trend, which is correct!gluten free breads on wood background

Adopting a gluten-free diet has become more popular in the past few years, but it isn’t just a trend. You may have heard of celiac disease, an autoimmune disorder that can develop at any age. The disease causes damage to the large intestine of the person who has it when he or she eats anything with gluten.

People who don’t have celiac disease can also have negative health effects eating gluten. Non-celiac gluten sensitivity can cause some of the same symptoms as celiac disease, but would not show up on a blood test for celiac disease. These symptoms can include headaches, mental fogginess, and joint pain. People with non-celiac gluten sensitivity may not have the same kind of damage to their intestines as people with celiac disease would experience. Eating a gluten-free diet can help relieve these symptoms for these people.

For more information on celiac disease and non-celiac gluten sensitivity, visit these links:

And for tasty gluten-free recipes visit:

Jan 31

Prescription Drug Abuse

Posted By iamincontrol | January 31, 2017

Dozens of Prescription Pill Bottles“My drug dealer was a doctor, doctor/Had the plug from big pharma, pharma/He said that he would heal me, heal me/But he only gave me problems, problems”

That is part of the chorus of Macklemore’s song, “Drug Dealer” featuring Ariana Deboo. Prescription drug abuse has been a big topic over the past few years as people all over the country have been crying out for better alternatives. In fact, people are calling the current situation an “opioid crisis” because prescription drug abuse has become widespread across the nation.

What is it?

Prescription drug abuse is when someone takes drugs that were prescribed by a doctor for someone else or takes their own prescription for reasons other than what the doctor intended- like to get high.

Why is it important for teens?

  • Prescription drugs are the most commonly used substance by American teens if you don’t count alcohol and marijuana.
  • Teens abuse drugs to get high, to numb pain, or because they think it will improve their schoolwork.
  • Most teens get prescription drugs from their family or friends, sometimes without their knowledge.
  • There is a difference in how boys and girls use drugs. Boys are more likely to use them to get high, and girls use them more often to stay alert in school or to lose weight.
  • What types of drugs are there?

There are three main types of drugs.

  • Opioids: painkillers such as Vicodin, OxyContin, or codeine
  • Depressants: help relieve anxiety or help someone sleep like Valium or Xanax
  • Stimulants: can treat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) like Adderall or Ritalin

To learn more about prescription drug abuse, visit:

Jan 26

Is Cockroach Milk the New Superfood?

Posted By iamincontrol | January 26, 2017

A glass of milk pictured from aboveIf you hate milk, you might be in luck because there is a new alternative. Kind of. A new type of super milk was discovered that is created by the female Pacific cockroach beetle. Unlike other insects that lay eggs, this beetle lays live young and feeds them with pale, yellow milk. After looking into it, researchers discovered that cockroach milk is one of the most nutritious foods in the world!

Does this mean that we will start seeing cockroach milk in stores? Not yet! Although we know that the milk has a lot of nutrients, we don’t know if it is harmful to humans yet. Not to mention that milking a cockroach is a little more complicated than milking a cow. Scientists are currently working on genetically modifying yeast bacteria to produce the same milk as cockroaches. It may be a while until you see it in stores, but keep your eyes peeled! It’s only a matter of time.

FUN FACT: Cockroach milk was first discovered by a professor at the University of Iowa. Hawkeye pride!

To learn more about cockroach milk, visit: