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Posted By iamincontrol | May 1, 2014
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Posted By iamincontrol | April 26, 2016
Eating healthy can be tough with a busy schedule! Eating healthy is key to feeling good and having energy to fuel your brain and body. Use these 6 tips to swap your snacks and eat healthier this week.
- Freeze grapes- snack on these frozen treats instead of a sugary popsicle
- Cut the fat in dips by using Greek yogurt instead of sour cream
- Have a meatless Monday- Swap meat for whole grains (quinoa, bulgur, etc.), beans, or mushrooms
- Try using lettuce to wrap tacos instead of tortillas
- Applesauce can replace oil (and some sugar) to make healthier cakes
- Instead of drinking pop add in lemons and cucumbers to water to make a refreshing drink
Looking for more ideas? Check out: http://kidshealth.org/en/teens/healthy-snacks.html
Posted By iamincontrol | April 21, 2016
It’s okay to fail, and it will happen more often in your life than you expect. Growing up I was a perfectionist who cared about my grades and school work dearly. You can learn a lot about yourself and how you react to situations when you fail. You can either let it destroy you and give up or you can make yourself a stronger person and grow. What you do and how you see yourself in a rough patch can influence your approach when faced with the next hurdle. During my freshmen year of college, I had a friend who failed a class that she needed to be accepted into her major program. She was devastated about her performance in the class and under a lot of pressure from matters outside of school as well. She retook the course, she got a tutor from the university, and spent her time studying. Her hard work paid off and she received an A in the course. Now when I need assistance or motivation, I often ask for her guidance. She inspired me to get a tutor for one of my classes because of how great she took responsibility for her academics. Her hard work and preservation helped her prepare for her future. In the short term, failing can be devastating and can mislead you into giving up, but please stay optimistic. My friend wanted to change her major after failing, but now is on the path to the future she has worked so hard for. If you want something, turn your failure into your future success.
For more info about making the most of your college experience visit: http://collegeapps.about.com/od/choosingacollege/tp/8-Tips-for-a-Campus-Visit.htm
Posted By iamincontrol | April 14, 2016
Summer is right around the corner and it’s time to start thinking about how you will spend your sunny summer days. Having a summer job is a great way to save some cash, meet some friends, and polish your skills. Adding a job into your schedule will not only look great on your resume but can be a fun way to gain some personal and professional skills. Here’s 3 tips to make the most of a summer job:
1. Take charge: Volunteer for a leadership role, show willingness to do more than asked, or suggest new approaches. Your suggestions could impress management and help your job environment be better for yourself and others. You could suggest a new way to organize the sales floor to attract more customers, or maybe you use your design skills and recreate your job’s logo.
2. Make an impression: Making an impact while at work can be meaningful and can leave an impression about your work ethic. In the future, you may need a reference for another job or for academics. People you have worked with in the past can help your future by referring you to a new positions and recognizing your hard work. Making an impact can be as simple as being positive at work. Others will take notice of your great attitude and reward you!
3. Start the search early: This gives you more time to explore all options and shows potential employers that you are forward thinking and serious. Search the web and local newspapers for openings. It never hurts to call or stop in and talk to someone about potential job openings. Connecting with others is a great communication skill and will start to build your contact list of potential employers.
For resume and interview tips visit: http://www.collegebound.net/article/v/18576/land-your-first-jobresume-and-interview-tips-for-teens/
Posted By iamincontrol | April 7, 2016
High school is supposed to be one of the best times of your life. For me, high school was a time where I started my downward spiral into an eating disorder.
At 16 I had what looked like a great life. I was an athlete, an A student and I had a network of loving friends and family. However, on the inside, there were these voices in my head constantly saying that I wasn’t good enough. I could only take so much of those voices before it became too much too handle. For a couple of years, I found comfort in quieting those voices in my head with food. I had developed a binge eating disorder. I gained a considerable amount of weight and after hurtful comments were said and a doctor’s appointment, I decided I needed to lose weight. I started restricting and cutting back my food intake and exercising more. In my mind, thinness lead to happiness and success but the thinner I got, the worse I felt. The summer after my freshman year of college was when my eating disorder became life threatening. I didn’t hang out with my friends, every time I stood up I was dizzy, and I barely had the energy to get up out of my bed. I describe myself during this time as a shadow of a person; I wasn’t living, I was just there.
I was 19 years old when I was diagnosed with anorexia nervosa and in August of 2014, was when I began the road to recovery. I checked into a residential treatment facility for eating disorders, where I stayed for 6 weeks. After being an inpatient, I moved to outpatient treatment for 3 ½ months. I’m coming up on my year anniversary of being out of treatment, and while I’m forever grateful for my time there, I have no intentions of going back. I learned so much from my time in treatment. The staff taught me different coping skills I could use when urges and stress were high and when I was feeling difficult emotions. When life becomes stressful, self-care is incredibly important! Taking time for yourself by reading a book, painting, or taking a bubble bath can help decrease your anxiety. I also love animals and they are a great form of therapy. You can relieve stress by spending time with your own pet or volunteering at a local humane society.
My eating disorder took away the things that mattered to me and I lost my authentic self. Recovery has allowed me to find who I truly am. The best part of this journey has been discovering the real me. Every day is a battle, but I never fight alone. I have a support system that fights with me day after day. The road to recovery is difficult, full of ups and downs, but it’s 100% worth it.
Find more information about eating disorder support at: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/find-help-support
Posted By iamincontrol | April 5, 2016
Have you ever experienced Fear Of Missing Out- often known as FOMO? FOMO can appear in various situations. Last weekend, I had to work while all my friends went to a concert. The whole time at work I was wondering if they were having fun, if the concert was good, and what Snapchats I was missing out on. Feeling FOMO definitely is not fun! Sometimes though, FOMO can also include peer pressure, which feels even worse! I have had “friends” try to pressure me into doing things that could potentially hurt me or get me into trouble. Here are some tips on avoiding peer pressure and feeling good about it!
- Be straightforward- If you don’t want to do something, tell them! If it doesn’t feel right it most likely isn’t going to turn out well.
- Suggest an alternative- Like going to the mall or an activity you feel comfortable doing
- Distract- Tell them something off the wall like a random fact or what your teacher did in class today
- Call out idiocy- “That’s so silly”
- Delay- Talk about other things, keep their mind off of what you don’t want to do
- Don’t even explain- sometimes they just won’t understand!
- Play the parent/guardian card- “My mom is calling me, I forgot I had dinner with her tonight” “I forgot my grandma was going to take me shopping, so I can’t come”
- Diss the dumbness- let them know how unreasonable their suggestion is
- Joke it off- Tell them something funny or say no to them in a joking manner
- Say no firmly- Just plain say no!
Dealing with peer pressure can be a difficult thing to do. Avoiding people that you don’t like or don’t respect you is a great first step. Surround yourself with others who appreciate you just the way you are and do positive things.
Check out this video on avoiding peer pressure: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_A7h2JtcPf0
Posted By iamincontrol | March 29, 2016
For as long as I have been alive, my father has been an alcoholic. Although it has always been hard on myself and my family, it was especially difficult throughout my teenage years. I always knew that my father acted in a way that would upset my mother and older sisters but it was not until I was older, roughly age 10, that I had the realization that my dad was an alcoholic. His disease was the cause of a lot of changes, sadness, and struggles within my life. He and my mother separated when I was six years old, which resulted in my sisters and me living mostly with our mother. We were able to stay with our father every Tuesday evening and every other weekend.
I began feeling ashamed and embarrassed of his actions, wondering if I was doing something wrong to cause his drinking. I did not want to bring friends around him, in the fear that he would be drunk and acting out. I did not know how to deal with the emotions I was feeling from his alcoholism. Finally, when I was thirteen years old, I started attending Alateen meetings with a friend who also had an alcoholic parent. Having a friend with a similar problem, that could understand what it was like and how I was feeling was very helpful. Alateen is a fellowship of teenagers, whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. It goes along with the Al-Anon system which is designed for adults affected by alcoholism.
For my specific group, we met every Tuesday night and were able to talk about our weeks with one another, whether there were any situations involving our parent’s alcoholism or not. This program changed my life in such a positive way. I built relationships with people that I will never forget and they helped me get through some of my toughest days. I will be forever grateful to the Alateen program for all of the good they did for me. I would not be as strong and healthy as I am today without it. From attending these meetings, I was able to channel in on what my specific challenges were and how to distinguish between my emotions. I learned how to cope with a variety of feelings and situations. The most important thing I took away from these meetings, though, was the ability to help myself even when my father did not want to help himself. My father and I have a strong relationship to this day and I credit that to this program. I strongly advise anyone who is going through a similar situation to check into any Alateen groups within your area.
You can find more information about Alateen and locations groups meet at this website, http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/how-will-alateen-help-me.